OT: My Christmas dilemma solved with an "I told you so!"

Awesome! Merry Christmas to you!

Thanks, the drama-rama is over, yeessshhhh!! Merry Christmas to you too!

Glad things are going to work out for you.  Merry Christmas!!
It's funny how different family dynamics are...my stepdaughter, her two children, her mother (my husband's first wife), and her grandmother (my husband's ex-mother-in-law) have invited us...me, my husband and our daughter to my stepdaughter's house for Christmas dinner.  We are going, and I am thrilled that I don't have to cook and clean up a mess! 
My husband and his first wife were divorced for nearly 12 years before I ever met him. So, it wasn't like I was the "other woman". 

Hi Jan,

No matter what, you will all be related forever, as will we through our children. The worst thing that I had to handle throughout this separation is getting it through his feeble brain that we can get along. We didn't do things the way others did ever, why start now. I have seen the looks on little faces of the kids whose separated parents that make a scene in public over their kids....so not good!!

My brother's ex dragged him into court over everything. I think the most ridiculous thing that I have EVER heard was the time she (no word of a lie) dragged him into court because she thought he was going to leave the country with the kids because he had a picture of he and kids taken that she saw with them all wearing fake mustaches!!! Yeah.....I could be faked out by a 4 year old girl and a six year old boy if the just wore a little facial hair. Obviously there where other thing on her list of wrong doings, but really?!?!?!?!

LOL  Crazy! 
Yeah, I think, early on that we decided that my stepdaughter kept us all connected.  We had no choice but to get along.  It was rough...REALLY rough, in the beginning. My stepdaughter couldn't stand me most of the time and made it very clear to me how she felt.  As time went on, and she realized that I wasn't just passing through, she and I became friends.  With her marriage, birth of twins, divorce, attending grad school, and now soon to graduate and starting her new career as a teacher, we are family and friends.  I actually like her very much!  And, I like her mother and grandmother...as hard as it is for some to believe :)  They are very kind to my daughter, and that means the world to me. 
Also, one thing that I admire about my husband is that he has NEVER spoken a negative word about his exwife...to his daughter, or to anyone that I'm aware of. They had problems, obviously, but he doesn't speak of it in any detail.  I hear people badmouth their exs all the time, in the presence of their children, or directly to their children.  In the end, this is damaging to the children, IMO. 
LOL  I just can't stop thinking about the 4 and 6 year olds with fake mustaches, going through an airport! 
 

So glad this worked out, Martha! 

My guess is that your daughter told him how ridiculous it was for him to expect you come to your old house with her as hostess!  Once an insensitive boob, always an insensitive boob.

Lora

This is the photo that comes up on my phone when he calls :) The ringtone is priceless for him too!! 

Homer!!  LOL

Lota

Martha, I'm so glad this got sorted and you'll be on neutral territory!!

I was blown away by how composed and civil you were about the whole thing, me, I think I'd be a childish ***** in that situation, I take my hat off to you for dealing with it so well.

I'm sure you'll look like a stunner at this other function and make her feel as low as she is!