Regretting getting bypass

Depends on the day. Some days are ok. Most days I'm not a fan. I can't eat anything. Everything makes me sick. I had a structure (no biggie) but I still can't eat or drink. It is depressing. I keep hoping it will get better. And I truly believe that a year from now I will feel completely different. Kinda like how childbirth is never as bad when you think back as it actually is. That's my hope anyway. I hope you love it always

No way, no how!  No many how many times I vomited, felt weak, etc. I have never regretted my decision.  My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner while I was in my 30s! Its all been worth it to move my body the way I have always wanted to, to be off almost all medication, to shop almost anyplace and find clothes that fit at a lower price.  My confidence, stamina, and self-esteem are at the highest they have ever been in my life!

I hope you feel better soon!

No regret whatsoever! I did not even have buyer's remorse.

I do not know if regret it, but if I had known more of the side effects, I might have made a different decision. My memory loss has gotten so bad, I had to stop going to college with only 5 classes left until I graduate. It is so bad that I cannot remember what day it is or what I are for breakfast without writing it down. I also have so much trouble with comprehension now, that everything goes over my head. I feel like a piece of my brain has been removed. My potassium has also dropped low enough to have to go to the ER for an IV of potassium, which hurts like hell, 4 times. My back pain has gotten worse. My depression has gotten worse and my meds do not seem to help at all. I am tired all the time, to the point where if I do not lay down to take a nap during the day, I will fall asleep doing whatever I am doing. My coordination has also gotten so bad that I walk into the wall at least twice a day. My doctor said things would get better when the weight loss slowed down, but it hasn't. I lost 100 pounds by my 3 month appointment. I am now at 6 months and have only lost 36 more pounds. It seems that it should have slowed down enough for me to be able to think. My mind is much more important than my body, so if I had known I would lose my mind and feel like a crazy person, I would have had second thoughts.

You are not typical of the results of WLS.  Sounds like you need a complete physical and mental work-up as to what is going on.  People don't lose their minds having WLS.  Complications yes, but I fear there are so many things going on here and too many red flags are going up.  Please go see what is going on.  I am sure your frustration is through the roof.  Good luck, Jane

I've never come across reports of mental deficits after RNY before. Now I'm worried. My focus and short-term memory problem are getting noticeable. I attributed it to getting older, stress & anxiety, and learning a completely new way of living with the WLS.

It's known that anesthesia affects the mind temporarily; it shouldn't last as long as eight or mine months, though, should it?

I will introduce this as a new topic. Maybe somebody has info about this. Jen V., do get a medical examination for this issue. 

I see the doctor next week and will be discussing it with him. At my three month checkup, he told me the memory loss should resolve when my weight loss slows. I just thought I was foggy from losing 100 pounds by my 3 month checkup. Now I am 6 months and have lost 136, so it slowed down a lot. I want answers now that my memory has not returned to normal.

No regrets at all, other than that I did not have surgery many years earlier.   I also had no "buyers remorse" nor any of the hormone related swings that I see talked about....if not for those incisions I almost would not have even known anything was done except that suddenly I had to drink in sips.  I'm almost 2 yrs post-op and at the time I had surgery my insurance would not cover the sleeve...had it been an option for me, I might have chosen that but I am verrrrry happy with my rny.

Lizzy S in OR

I don't regret having the surgery. I regret not having it 5 years ago when I really wanted to have it, but let my sis and ex-boyfriend talk me out of it.

 

I'm off of all meds and I'm healthier than I have been in 25 years. My sis and ex-boyfriend live out of town and have no idea that I've had the surgery. The look on their faces when they see me is going to be priceless!!!

 

 

I definitely had buyers remorse for a few weeks directly after surgery. Not gonna lie, those first 3-4 weeks were rough. However, I'm now 9 Weeks post op & I feel fabulous! Exercise is getting so much easier (I had a passion for hating anything that resembled exercise before surgery), Breathing is easier, clothes feel "good" to wear again, I can cut/paint my own toenails without my face turning blue & my stomach muscles screaming for mercy, chairs are easier to "fit" into & so many other great things are happening already!

It also helps that I have had no complications whatsoever (besides eating to fast & getting some beef/chicken stuck).

I'm happy with my decision. Even years down the road if I should develop some issues, I will always be happy with my decision, because I made an educated decision. I knew what the risks are/were & the surgery pros out weighed any potential negatives. All I wanted was quality to the years of my life, not quantity of years. I need to LIVE & so far the surgery is giving that option back to me!