2 years post-op RNY and up 20 pound since my low Memorial Day w/e 2011, help!

I have posted before that I am falling back into old ways and need help. I cannot find the post. In two days I will be post-op two years. I am up 20 pounds from my low on Memorial Day w/e 2011, please help! Some background information. I am 5'10", highest weight was 341, day of surgery weight was 320. Low was 185, currently 204.5:(  One of the biggest struggles I am having is that I am going back to my old ways, eating bad, grazing all day long, over eating, etc. I have a live in boyfriend that does not eat like I do and he wants junk food in the house. I do not expect him to eat the way I do or even give up what he likes to eat. When I was living alone, I was very controlled on what I would bring into the house and that was very helpful. I am alarmed at how out of control my eating is and feels, not to mention the 20 pound weight gain! I would love an obesity help buddy to check in with daily to be accountable to eating and working out wise with each other. 

I am going back to the basics as of NOW. No eating and drinking at same time for for 30 minutes after. Excercise 3-5 times a week. Eating 90% lean protein and other 10% or so healthy complex carbs. I am going to track my food with livestrong app on my phone. I am going to plan my meals, eat with my boyfriend, but not what he is eating. Any other ideas/motivations/etc that have helped you would be greatly appreciated.

Freaking out!

Kimberly

I may sound harsh, and I don't mean to, but I'm going to give you a bit of tough love.

When you signed on for this you knew to be successful long term that you had to change your lifestyle.  Permanently.  In reality, that is so much easier to say than to do.  Trust me, I'd love to stop exercising and watching what I eat!

You already know the things you are doing wrong.  Only you can control what your hands put into your mouth.  It is not your boyfriend's fault.......you alone possess the keys to your success.  That is a lot of power.  With great power comes greater responsibility.

When you lived alone, you really didn't learn how to live in the "real world" because you kept a tightly controlled environment, which was great when that was your life........but when that changed, you weren't equipped to handle it. It isn't too late to learn the good habits......you just have to do it, and stop talking about it.

Track every morsel you put into your mouth.  When you pick something up to eat it, ask yourself-is this worth buying bigger clothes and regaining weight?  Don't try to starve yourself or go on some super-strict diet........you know how well those worked out for us in the past.  When you do consciously choose to eat something, then get your butt outside and walk it off!  Exercise is the main way to keep the pounds at bay.

You can do this.  You've done it before. Make you a priority, and that means getting your hiney off the couch even when you don't want to.  Maybe your BF can exercise with you?

I track my food on myfitnesspal.com.  If you use that, my user name is kkj5165......you can friend me and see what I'm doing and I'll keep my eye on you!

Best wishes as you tackle this.

Sounds like you have a plan to get back on track! Those are the things that will lead you back to where you want to be. You may also consider talking to a counselor, as for many of us there are reasons WHY we have eaten that way. Perhaps they can help you with that and make it easier to get back to the lifestyle you desire.

Good luck!

check : http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/backontracktogether/discuss ion/

It is Back on Track Together group. Some people post daily. Tess is great and she is back to posting daily and offer support.

Thank you all for the tough love and messages. I will head over to the back on track group later today. I am seeing a couselor weekly, (I am bipolar and have anxiety and PTSD). I much appreciate the tough love and words of encouragement!

You know what to do. You can do it.

I've gained 7 pounds in two days, from not being able to urinate- thanks to kidney stones. it will go, but freaks me out the same.

Go back to basics. ppy surgerversity

ha