Really???

I have spent the evening browsing through everyone's before and after pics. Now, my highest weight is 277, and current pre-op weight is 240. I had no idea that I look as I do!!! I am a very *****y 5'2." I am married with 4 kids, I'm not a babe by any means. But I still get asked by the girls to go out. I get "hit" on by a man here and there. It has just hit me like a brick, I look aweful!!! I am now wondering, was I a joke? I have to wait until my 6mos is over to have the surgery! So I'm looking at march/april. I am so embarrassed. I honestly do not see myself being that obese! This is crazy!

You are not a joke!  Just in process, growing and becoming more beautiful every day!

Of course you're no joke!

That would mean I was! And no way was I a joke! I was hot stuff back then and still am! Lol! I always thought of myself as "*****y" like you put it, big or small. Hence the name! Dee *****!

I think women can be beautiful at any size. Size doesn't matter. It's the way you carry yourself. And if you get hit in, then hey, you're rocking what you got!

I don't think you were hit on as a joke...

Contrary to popular belief, I do believe there there are a whole bunch of men who can look at a woman and find her attractive because of her personality and the way she makes him feel about himself.

I also understand looking at pictures of yourself heavy and thinking "Oh my God..."

I really hate seeing myself like that because, truthfully, I never realized how truly awful I looked until after I lost the weight.

Wishing you a successful journey!!!!

I have a friend who I am fairly sure really hates me because she gave me a huge photo book with pictures of ME at my surprise 50th birthday party. I think that looking at those pictures of myself is what brought me to look into weight loss surgery seriously. I guess that I should thank her!?!?! Actually, my before picture is one of the photos in that book.

No, you aren't a joke.....there is a shoe for every foot as they say. My ex-husband apparently likes heavier women as his gf is significantly overweight.

Martha 

Thank you all for your responses! I don't know if something just clicked, but I sure know now how much help I need. Your stories and encouraging words are greatly appreciated!!!