What do you think of me?

I usually don't really care what other people think...I think?  Lately, it seems that people make comments that bother me.  In here, on facebook, in real life...just everywhere!  My daughter and her friends are included in the comment making, and it bothers me. 
The comments that are made are about size.  Size, and comparisons.  For instance...
A woman in the grocery store was standing at the deli section, waiting for her turn to be served.  She said to her companion, "I need to work on my weight.  I'm so fat, I look like a huge cow!"  This woman was probably 5 lbs overweight.  My daughter was with me, which made the comment even more disturbing...to make those comments in front of impressionable teens is just wrong!  Her friend, in response to the comment said, "I know what you mean, girl.  I've gotten so big after the holidays that I'm as big as a house!"  She wasn't anywhere near overweight, in fact, she was very thin.  I'm probably TWICE the weight of the second girl, if not more. 
What do they think of me??  What message does this send to my daughter and others who heard this conversation?
Am I more aware, or sensitive, of these comments? 
I try very hard to not focus so much on weight, or diets, with my daughter...but we focus on activity...working out together at the gym.  I provide healthy meals, as much as I can, for her.  Trying to teach by example.  But, it's discouraging to hear things like this from "fit" looking people. 
It bothers me, too, that my daughter and her friends (most are very fit, or even underweight) talk about how fat they are, or compare themselves to large animals or objects.  When they are eating, they call each other "fat".  I asked why, and they tell me that if someone is eating, that's just what they say...that person is "fat" for eating.  I don't get it! Needless to say, it's not allowed in my house!  If you eat here, you don't say those things. 
Just needed to vent a bit.  :) 

I am not sure it is your problem. My wife weighs 112 pounds. She is 5'1" and is always saying I feel like a big fat cow. Some people just love to ridicule themselves and it may not have anything to do with you at all. Just use that as motivation and the day will come when people say things like that, you can chime in and say, "me too" and they will look at you and say. " god as thin as that person is, she is for sure not a fat cow". Then you can laugh to yourself. You are just fine, keep a good attitude. 

Thank you for your response.  
I hope to keep a good attitude.  I just hope I don't strangle some skinny, big mouthed, self criticizing woman along the way!  
Seriously, though, it will always make me concerned for these young, impressionable girls to hear things like that. 

 

I used to hate it when I'd hear slim women say things like that or that they had 10 pounds to lose (when I had  over 100 ), or that they felt really "bloated" today.

I 'd  think, 'shut the hell up I could fart and lose 10 pounds!'

 

Now that I have a normal BMI a 10 pound gain does seem huge to me now, and I do get uncomfortably bloated!  

Perspectives change.

I guess so.  
I've been thin and I'm sure I said things that I shouldn't have.  Even as a thin person, I saw myself as bigger....much bigger.  Having a daughter changes everything for me.   

Because society says "all must be celebrity thin" which is NOT true.  We are being programmed to believe this, and it's not always easy to accept not all will be model thin or model "beautiful".  This does indeed impact the young girls I see it way too often.  When I hear a woman or young girl make these type of comments, I get this piercing (knife it stomach) feeling. 

Not only are kids cruel but adults can be also.  I've stood up for overweight people and will continue to do so as I feel the need to.   I hear way too often young boys and girls making snide comments about other's weight, yes even my kids.  I've more than once had to discuss this with them, explain how hurtful it is and remind them that I was there before and it will not be acceptable in our house, period.

Self-esteem issues can also affect one like the ladies you mentioned in your post.  Just because they are of normal size it doesn't mean they have self-esteem or self-confidence.

That is so true.  Lack of self esteem, I'm sure, plays a huge part in the comments.  I think that part of me wants to just shake them and say, "You look beautiful, silly!"  
Maybe if someone had told me that, in years past, I wouldn't be struggling now?  
 

I agree with the above poster. It's a perspective thing. I used to feel the same way and think those people were crazy, grabbing an inch of skin and trying to shake it at me while saying, "look how fat I am!" I kinda get it now. Even a few extra lbs to lose can make you feel that way. I know that even though I've lost quite a bit, according to my BMI I am still overweight. Crazy, but true.

You certainly don't look anything but perfect!  It would be nice if we could just eliminate the numbers.  I saw a post on facebook that said, "I weigh AWESOME".  That may be my new motto.  :) 

I can understand your thoughts and feelings about someone saying I'm so fat, or they need to lose weight when they don't look like they do and we only wished we were that size.  Here's how I see it or what I have learned since my surgery.  At 350 lbs. being up or down 10 or 20 lbs is probably not even noticeable to us. At least it was not for me.  We feel pretty much the same. We may not feel fatter if we gain some. Because in most likelihood we are wearing stretchy pants.  And then as we start losing weight and we've lost 50, 75 lbs we feel great, lighter, can take on the world do anything, we begin to notice, it feels good.  Weightloss continues now you've lost 150 or more and you are in non stretchy pants, can do anything and try different things, your weightloss minimizes greatly or stops, you are now there.  Now when you gain ten pounds you feel it. You feel fat because you pants are tighter, tops not fitting as well, feel sluggish. Make sense?  And after losing that much weight, getting to a "normal" weight losing 5 lbs is a big deal. Losing 5 or 10 lbs when you are 350 lbs is nothing, losing 5 or 10 lbs for those who feel they need to,that we view as normal, skinny, etc is hard.  It takes a lot more effort, healthy eating and exercise. So in my opinion that is why they feel fat, they don't have hundreds to lose, just a small amount which their bodies don't give up easily.