Was my previous post deleted?

sometimes i have the patience to read and respond to the types of posts you mentioned, but most times i skip them. i respond when i can relate to the excitement and energy and desperate hope to lose weight that the newly post-op feel. four years later, things are so different. alot of the time i hardly connect with those post-op feelings. and some days i forget i ever even had surgery. 

i'm not sure that patients aren't being educated. my surgeon had a good education program. but i was so desperate to lose weight that i don't know that i paid much attention. i fully understood the surgery and the immediate post-op period, but not the part about maintenance.

i had my eye on the prize and just wanted to have surgery as soon as possible once i had made the decision to do so. my insurance required a 6 month diet beforehand, so that forced me to wait and during that time i educated myself about the surgery. like so many things in life though, one can never be prepared for such a huge life change. 

for sure though, there are alot of dummies out there. and some of them post here. 

I had to post to it from recent posts too ...

I had a post from here (which I deleted) posted to the DS board as a new thread last week - OH is really weird sometimes~

I just sent a message to someone to ask why it can't be viewed. 
Thanks!

Sorry, I deleted my msg because I saw that someone re-posted yours above. 

This was my reply to your post :)

Oh Janet, I agree with you on many points. You have the advantage of maturity. I don't mean in how many birthdays you have had, but in your ability to be realistic about life and the power of patients.Sometimes it is difficult to re-read the same questions and sometimes I do need to "step away from the keyboard" because I may not be kind in my responses. I think that I had the advantage of finding this web site about 9 months before I had surgery and had many of what would be concerns answered by just reading, reading and more reading. When I couldn't find an answer, I would ask, but not ask any medical question nor any that I just wanted someone to validate something that I knew to be wrong.

I feel like I was well educated in my pre-op at my surgeons office, but think that it would take months of full time study to cover everything that I learned here by reading and using the SEARCH option. Like in so many things, people have come to expect instant gratification without the work part involved. I mean not only the quick weight loss, but also just asking the question without trying to research the answer first. There are then those that want the attention of replies but don't want to hear the truth.

They are several who post here often that they aren't eating, drinking or taking their vitamins or something for some reason (excuse) or another but want to be coddled with a "That's OK honey, just try to do better." I try to be kind, but won't say that to anyone! It probably would have taken less time to take their vitamins then it did to type the post. 

As for picking and choosing what you read, do it! I don't knowingly read posts about poop or periods, my choice. If the "I'm not losing fast enough" posts bother you, skip them. There are a few here that reply in a nasty (or sanctimonious) way who themselves made a post or 2 of their own on just that subject when they were a newbie. I encourage them to skip the posts on that subject. I have to admit that I have a cut and paste page on my computer for a few topics because they come up entirely too often.

Finally, I still have no idea if I would dump. I never tested the waters and still shake my head at those that want to find out. 

I think that you have so much to offer this forum as a newbie or a vet. Stick around :)

Martha 

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Janet

I have this issue when it comes to strictly medical questions. I do not know your entire health history, nor am I a medical professional. Even if I was a medical professional, I still don't know your specific history, and you don't know me--I could be a quack! I don't mind giving advice about lifestyle changes or things that have worked for me, but it really bothers me when people ask things and follow it up with "Don't tell me to ask my surgeon."

At that point the individual needs to do some self-evaluation. "Why don't I want to tell my surgeon this? Is it because I am afraid she/he will be disappointed? Will say no? Will want me to have test A and B done?" If you don't trust the person who is rerouting your digestive system, you may want to reconsider your surgeon.

So, I confess that I do skip over those posts. Yes, sometimes we need a soothing hand or an "it's okay to be frustrated," but there's a big difference between that and actively doing things that will hurt you and coming on here looking for approval. It's better to skip past and ignore that than get into an argument with someone who clearly isn't looking for real advice.