Gaining Weight & Stress

Happy Mother's Day to all, I hope your day has been a nice one. I had surgery for a hernia & it has been taking a while to get over. I am still having drainage from it & I had a few compactions during surgery but everything is ok except getting back to my normal self. My problem is I have been inactive for almost 2 months & not eating right, I have been getting sick when I eat certain foods since surgery. I know that should sound like I would lose weight. I need help getting back on track. Before surgery I weighted about 130  now I weigh 159, I can't believe I weigh this much again . I have kept my weight down for almost 3 years now I am so disappointed  in myself my clothes are getting so tight some of my jeans don't even fit. I have more nice clothes than I have had in years & I want to be able to wear them I already feel miserable again (just like before WLS) I hate feeling like this. I would love to have some advice on how to start over, I'm still on a limit of how much I can lift. Also on sweeping & mopping you know the normal what not to do after surgery even though it's been almost 2 mths. I'm going to try to make my self start walking in the morning & in the evening. All I do right now is stay in bed most of the day I still have pain in my belly button & my tummy is still tender when I bend over or hold my 3 mth old grandson he can't lay or lean on that part of my tummy. I don't know what the deal is with me since surgery I have no energy or maybe I have just gotten lazy I don't know. Please "HELP ME" it will be greatly appreciated Thanks 

If you truly are limited in what you can do physically (I only say "if" because you mentioned that perhaps you had gotten lazy), you need to be really diligent in controlling what you are eating in order to avoid gaining weight.  I had severe arthritis is one knee and moderate arthritis in the other when I had my RNY, so my physical activity has been very limited since I had my surgery, but I have been able to make food choices that keep my calories low enough to not only lose 190 pounds,but to keep it off at nearly 6 years out (and still have a small snack every day).  So it CAN be done with almost no exercise.  It just means heavily focusing on protein (I still eat only about 2 bites of any non-protein food until I have eaten all of my protein) and eliminating as many "white" foods and other carbs as possible.  Other than my snack (which is usually chocolate or ice cream), 90% of my carbs come from sources that also provide protein (dairy, beans, etc.).

I obviously don't know if you have gotten lazy, but I can tell you that surgery can take a huge toll on your energy level, especially while you are still in pain... so my guess is that it isn't laziness, that it is (largely) physical.  I think hat walking in the morning is an excellent start to force yourself to become active again.

Lora

Thanks Lora,I do need to eat more protein &cut out snacks for a while.

Have you talked to your surgeon about the amount of pain you're still having?  And the fact that you mostly just stay in bed all the time?  I'm thinking two months after hernia surgery, you should be feeling better than that.

Is your iron low, maybe?  Or might you be dealing with some depression?

Yes I have talked to my surgeon he just said I couldn't just jump back into everything but like I said I had complication. My intestines & bowl was grow on the hernia & the Dr. cut my intestines but stiched it back up. Believe me I'm tired of not being able to do the things I want to do. Thanks

You had surgery two months ago and are still in bed?  Why?  What does your doctor say?  Something is wrong here.  Honestly your screen name is hop2bthin, hope has nothing to do with it.  You need to get up and get back to living and relose the weight and stop babying yourself.  I live in chronic pain I get it, but feeling sorry for yourself everyday means you will get fat again.

Good luck.

I really do apprecate your input but I'm not babying my self  or feeling sorry for my self. I;m sorry you have chronic pain, I have Fibromyalgia so I know what pain is on a daily basis . My name hop2bthin is just a screen name not to indicate that it's all hope. It is hard work & making sure I make the right food choices & right now I have been making the wrong ones . That is why I'm asking for help not a lecture. Thanks

Thanks for your replys but I wanted some suggestions or ideas on how to jump start my weight loss again. Not to be called lazy or to tell me I shouldn''t still be in bed but right now thats where I feel better to be in my bed. I know I said maybe I was lazy but I was joking. & yes I do have depression had it for several years but I'm on medication. But then again I do appreciate your honesty  i still need help on how to re-start my weight loss & I know I shouldn't still be in bed but maybe it is my depression but I do stll have some pain. Thanks for your input

I don't have much advice as a 6-month newbie...I think the walking should help you feel better, which would be a great start.  Just make sure to start slowly... you don't want to set yourself back by injuring yourself.  Good luck.