Severely Depressed ;(

What everyone else said, plus:  Think of all the extra closet space you are going to have for new clothes after your surgery.  

After the shock of him being gone, you will recover and be much better off.  Try to get counseling so you don't go back to that type of person.  Look at all the posters that have gone through the same thing and understand that you aren't alone.  Good luck to you.  

I agree with everyone else. You can do better than him. You just need to gain confidence in yourself and know that you deserve someone who will treat you right... not keep you stuck in a nightmare. We ( as obese people) tend to tear ourselves down enough; we sure don't need to be married to someone who does nothing but reinforce our negative self-image. See a counselor. Get some help, and move toward a better life for yourself and your children. He obviously isn't a good role model for them, and children often grow up to live the same type lives they had modeled for them. They deserve better, too. Good luck!

As many know from my story on here that My husband told me he did not love me or was attracted to me because I was too fat. Even though he himself gained a ton of weight himself. It sucks and I know how you feel. When I would try to diet he would go to the grocery store and buy all the foods that I liked that were trigger foods. I am so sorry you are going through this but he's not worth your tears and I know it's hard for you to see that right now. In time you will heal and you will find someone that loves you for YOU and not for what he wants you to be. I believe in what comes around goes around and he will be hurt deeply someday.

 

Hang in there and stay positive and don't let him pull you down!!!!

Thank you all for all your support and powering words it means so much to me, I'm not gonna lie it is hard I have cried everyday and night I have to leave my desk at work and go in the bathroom because its like it is my every thought it just consumes me and I just break out in tears me and my daughter cried tonight together and hug each other she is only 10 I hate what he has put me through I hate him for that I am such a good person but when I look at him it is with hate ... The pain is so unbearable at times please please keep me in your prayers I need each of you because with you all and God I will get through this heartbreaking time in my life .... On a good note going to the surgeons on next Wednesday I got 2 more months then hopefully surgery date is on the way, God bless you all!!!!!