Tomorrow

Less then 24 hours to go now!!! I'll be having my surgery tomorrow morning and I just can't wait!! I am a little bit nervous because after all it is still a big procedure but I think I am calm...

I am just feeling so alone you know, like nobody can possibly know how overwhelming this can be and that they don't even care!! Like they are secretly thinking that I am lazy and that I should have gone on a diet before it get to this point or something like that. Sometimes they are not even that discrete in hiding what they are thinking and it just get me so mad that I could hurt them bad and not even care!! I mean nobody would say something like that if I was getting a heart surgery or any other kind of surgery for that matter!! And that makes me feel so alone and without any support... 

I know that I am doing this for myself but I wish people could understand that obesity is a disease and stop treating it like it is laziness or lack of self control...

Did you guys heard things like that as well? How do you deal with it?

So freaking exciting!! My surgery is on Wednesday and I feel the same way. I go from super excited to scared and nervous. And yes, those nerves and thoughts about what others will say/think do cross my mind, but I remind myself of why I'm doing this. My friends and most of my family have been a fabulous support system.

Focus on the positive and forget the negative. We are beautiful and strong, and we are taking control of our health and our lives.

Best of luck to you!

I am tomorrow also. Lots of mixed emotions but mostly excitement for a new beginning with a tool that will work this time. I worry what others think too but I know this is for me!  Prayers for you!  Keep us posted!

My surgery is tomorrow morning as well. I haven't told too many people so I am not dealing with too much from other people except one obnoxious coworker who doesn't know why I am taking a medical leave but took it upon herself to speculate, out loud, behind my back, "I'll bet she's having lapband surgery...everybody's doing that now." Really??? Wonder what her guess would have been if I wasn't fat? Talk about discrimination! You have no idea how much I want to strangle that woman and how happy I am NOT to have to put up with her for six weeks!

Best wishes to you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm very excited for you.  I know how you feel about the way we are perceived and treated.  I even get bad treatment at times from my wife.  Many people think if they weren't fat they wouldn't have diabetes.  I believe everyone on this site and other sites know exactly how you feel.  We have all been discriminated against in one form or the other.  When you return to work you need to let your supervisor know that she has harassed you and that further harassment will not be tolerated.  I wish you the best tomorrow and can't wait till my big day gets here.  (I don't have a date yet)  I also wish you a speedy recovery.  And for the smart mouth co-worker I wish 40 pounds of fat settle on her butt overnight. Ha HA, Steve

Thanks Steve. It's good to hear from those who "get it."

All the best to you on your journey. Hope you get your date soon.

About the forty pounds of fat for the co-workers butt.  I was referring to one of the other ladies complaints, but you get the drift.

I am so sorry you feel this way!  I have been open about my surgery and if someone asks I tell them.  Most people have been supportive as they have seen what I have been doing just to get to the surgery. However, one of my co-workers constantly says things like "Well, why cant you try this diet pill or this one?"  It is really starting to wear on my nerves after hearing it everytime I work with her.  

Just know that you are making the best decision for yourself.  Not everyone understands, unfortunately that is the way the world is.  Many people still believe that WLS is the "easy way out" because they do not understand what it is truly about and what the lifestyle changes are like.

Good luck, and speedy recovery!

Thank you for the support!! This website is awesome and it is the only place where I truly feel understood!! I mean I am the only one in my family that is fat and I know they don't get it...most of the time they try but it is definitely not the same!! Thank you for the kind words!!