Need Support and Wisdom Stat!

Pethairmagnet, I loved your response and your perspective.  It really made me see things a different way.  I thought I wasn't a different person, but in reality, I am a completely different person.  So much of what I did with some of these "old friends" revolved around food and laziness.  I am healthy, active and thin now.  My whole life and perspective on life is completely different.  I didn't really look at it that way.  As I said before, I'm not a fan of change, but it's happening, so I guess I better embrace it.  Like DCgirl said, this (as our most relationships) are a journey and I'm in a weird place right now.  I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience with me. 

Also, I picture you as a southern, sassy, adorable woman, like one of the ladies from Designing Women (that dates me!).  Am I on track at all????

I am Southern! I am sassy! I like to think of myself as adorable, but I sometimes let my Julia Sugarbaker be a tad too much at the forefront and not enough Mary Jo or Charlene shine through. And when I am totally at the end of my rope I can go FULL ON Suzanne and just release things to the universe. So yes...I'm a bit DW, just in the Sybil way. ;)

Glad what I shared was helpful! :)

I lost a very close friend a few years after I was at goal, she was gaining weight and it became so uncomfortable between us she stopped wanting to physically "see" me, only talk on the phone etc.  It became so strained and I felt so bad about it, I just let go completely, and now we have lost touch.  It hurt the most of anything that happened after wls, I never dreampt it would happen.  She was very supportive until she found out she couldn't get wls and then fell into a bad place and started gaining weight.  I honestly tried to be her friend even when she didn't want it anymore, but there is only so much rejection you can take.

If your friends are in the same place as my friend this might be why they are different to you now, it starts gradually I am sure.