what if I want cake?

My birthday is Sunday. I'm 9 months out. Our birthday tradition is to have a family dinner. The birthday person gets to chooses the meal and the cake. We read the same card ever year. It's kind of a big deal. 

I know I can choose something that everyone will like for dinner. If there are any carbs, I can just skip them. But what about cake? Is there a kind that's lower in sugar that I could have just a little piece of? I would normally choose carrot and they'd buy it from the grocery store, but that's probably about the worst option fat and sugar wise. 

So what kinds of cake would you choose? Or you have a suggestion for an acceptable alternative? The way this week had gone, I'm thinking I can't face a bowl of fruit on my birthday. 

The only cake I used to have - was cheesecake.  I had a small piece of a couple of bites

Check out the recipe forum under all forums. If you search cake there are quite a few wls friendly recipes. I had trouble finding search it's the magnifying glass next to MY OH 

There is sugar free cake.  I had some of that on my birthday last year because I wanted cake.  Or, if you can tolerate small amounts of sugar (which most people can) eat a small amount of regular cake.

There are sugar free cake and brownies in the store.  Too many sugar alcohols for me (not everyone is sensitive to them, but I am unfortunately) but you might like them.  I find they taste better if you add some sour cream to the mix, a better "mouth feel" or something...

Or more realistically, get a carrot cake and have a bite.  Even among people who dump, one bite rarely does it.

Audrey

Last year for my birthday (I was 2 months out) I bought an ice cream cake for everyone else, because I don't like ice cream.  I didn't miss the cake.  But, at Thanksgiving, I made pumpkin pie, which I love, and I had a couple of small bites of it, and it was enough.  You know yourself better than anyone. If you think you can stop at a little bit, go ahead and have the cake.  If you can't, or sugar bothers you, I say get a small cake, and just enjoy your family (instead of cake) :)

Happy birthday!!

I made a great tasting chocolate cake for Mother's Day and used applesauce instead of oil and you can use one of many other types of sweetner.

My birthday is Monday. Last year was my 50th and I was one year post op. Never had a dumping episode. I had had a bite here and there off of my husband's over the previous few months. No problems. My husband gave me a 50th party last year and got me a cake from my favorite Italian bakery. I ate my small dinner meal and figured I was "safe" with a small 3 bite size piece of cake. Boy, was I wrong. I experienced my first dumping episode on my at my party, in front of all my guests. I figure they all got dinner and a "show" that day! As I had the whole full blown effect from the cake. Sweating, rapid heart beat, near passing out, nausea and dry heaves. I pretty much assume it wasn't the cake so much as it was the "extremely" sweet frosting. So just be careful. I haven't dumped since. I can get away with a couple small cookies here and their but I never pu**** Plus I stay away from frosting :) Happy Birthday to both of us this weekend. Enjoy your day and here's to many more for all of us!

Hi,

I am a sleever so please forgive the trolling here.  I did a protein cake my first year (see Eggface's blog).  It can be made without sugar and applesauce used instead of oil.  It is not an absolutely perfect substitute, but it worked well for me.  It is not something you would want to scale up for the family though.  Happy birthday!

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