Surgery is Friday and I am thinking about cancelling!

I was terrified of all the 'what ifs' right up until my surgery. The what-ifs aren't nearly as bad as you imagine. I still go out to eat with friends, just chose wisely and bring home leftovers. You may not be able to eat a lot, but you can still eat. The liquid diet and the beginning is much harder than now (4 1/2 months out). I have no buyers remorse. Just think how much better you will feel on those nights out, or camping... you will feel so much better. Good Luck, don't panic.

It sounds like ur using food at these social events to connect with people and make u happy, rather than the event itself. I was like this, I would use food to relieve anxiety and to lower inhibitions etc. Kind of like how ecstacy makes people love the world. This is not healthy and the surgery helps it to be not about the food so much anymore. In saying that u can still eat almost anything as before, just in small amounts. Your not gona become anorexic

I am 2.5 months post op and would absolutely do this again without a spot of hesitation!  It is by far, the best thing I have ever done for myself. Period. 

I am VERY social!  I now concentrate on enjoying the event, rather than concentrating on just the food.  I have more fun than I ever have.  I'm not the largest person at the party, I can dance the entire evening in heels, and I can wear the most beautiful clothes!  I go to events nearly every weekend, and I thoroughly enjoy myself.

Tools. It's all about how you use the tools. WLS for me was the final tool I needed to be successful. Other diets or programs could only go so far. I need that extra boost that surgery and a smaller stomach gave me. But they are all still tools. I still have to exercise daily, track what I eat and make healthier choices of foods. So when I go out I make sure to find healthy options or bring some to share with others. It is not a miracle fix for obesity. You have to be onboard to make it work. But it wil definitely work! And boy oh boy is it worth it!!!

Twelve years ago I went through the whole process and then backed out when I got close to surgery because I had never been sick (was obese but had not yet been diagnosed with sleep apnea, high blood pressure, diabetes) and I did not want to "mess with" my body because I thought it was working--except for my inability to lose the weight that I had steadily put on at the rate of about 5 pounds a year for 20 years and my annual dieting kept me on a yo yo.  Well 10 years later I had put on another 25 pounds and had all the health problems mentioned.  What killed me was the diabetes medicine that actually made me sick and made my life even more miserable.  I decided if I wanted to be around for potential grandchildren I had to do something since my body obviously wasn't cooperating.  So I went looking again and found about the best surgeon I ever could have gotten and did the RNY.  You can hardly tell I had surgery and fortunately (or maybe unfortunately) I was able to eat most things within months of surgery.  My diet is tremendously healthier than ever and I exercise daily after being a couch potato for many years.  My goal is to lose 150 pounds and I'm not there yet (down 80 pounds which occurred during the first 10 months but very little since including all year 2014 where I have lost only 3 pounds for the year).  However, my diabetes and sleep apnea are gone along with the very uncomfortable (and unsuccessful) medicine and contraptions I had to use.  i still struggle with high blood pressure somewhat and I'm beginning to believe that maybe I have had more alcohol than I should have, especially this time of the year because I have been pretty social.  In any case, I can only tell you that 10 years ago I wasn't ready but 12 years later I wished I had done it and enjoyed feeling as good as I do now for more time.  I have work to do but it is a lifetime change and at 64 I have finally matured enough to understand that.  It's not bad to doubt and truly if you are terrified you are not ready to make the commitment but do what they advise and see a professional for help with that.  This is a big change. In my opinion the benefits far outweigh the risks of surgery; life changes only for the better about six weeks after the surgery which will go by very quickly.  Good luck to you.

I agree with a lot of the posters.  If you're head isn't in it, perhaps you should give yourself more time.

However, I do all the things you do.  I go camping, go to bbqs, I don't eat hotdogs (never liked them) I will roast one marshmallow, if the mood hits.

My quality of life has improved 100%.  I don't feel uncomfortable in my body, I can wear whatever I want (even wore a bikini in Cuba this year!!!) Everything I do is easier and more enjoyable.  I haven't had to give up too much and have gained so much more.

I had an anxiety attack the day before my surgery and some second thoughts.

I wish you all the luck!