Should I tell my boyfriend?

If he doesn't want to be with you because you had WLS to make yourself healthier.. Then he isn't worth your time. Don't be afraid or ashamed to tell people, you have been given a second chance. Embrace it!

How long have you known this guy? Are you dating or just talking? If it is early in the relationship, I would not tell him yet. If you have loose skin from the weight loss, you may want to tell him you have lost weight before being intimate.

Your intimacy advice made me think about a widowed woman who started dating a guy.  When he made his first move, she warned him by saying, "touch all you want, just don't look." 

Here's another one:  After dating the same man for a while, Carol decided to test their budding relationship.  Expecting his visit, she put on nothing but a wrap-around bathrobe.  When he knocked and stepped inside, she opened her robe and said, "This is it.  If you turn and walk out, I will understand."  To my knowledge, they are still together. 

No you should not.  It is none of his business. 

Well, if he decides that, he's an asshole and not the right guy for you.  So that'll sort of be good information into his character.  Right? :)

You put your best foot forward on first dates.  Why bring up something that can be taken as negative.  Let him get to know you first.  Most people are ignorant about the surgery.  You will find yourself being defensive and trying to educate them. 

Talk about fun, positive things.  Most of my first dates end up being last dates.  I am not going to stress myself out telling them a surgery story.  They might walk out because they are an asshole, but mostly they will just walk out because you are telling them something that they don't understand. 

You don't owe anyone an explanation or any part of your medical history.

Very well said. I completely agree!!

Thanks Lau

I would not lie. I never lie about having WLS -- so if someone sees a photo of me when I was obese, I tell them.  That being said, if it doesn't come up yet, no big deal. I probably would tell him eventually. If you get married and he wonders why you take vitamins 4 times a day what would you say? If he tries to give you advil for your headache and you tell him you can't take it, would you tell him why?