HELP! I am regereting what I did!

I need to vent Please I am 7 days post-op and I feel like I made the BIGGEST Mistake of my Life! Who was I kidding everytime I turn around my house my mom is either making food or buying all my favorite fast foods. UGGGG I just want to scream! I am never going to eat again. I am sick of liquids did I say sick of liquids. How do I get over this head trip I have over Food! Please someone help me on what to do? My family is content on being overweight and think I am crazy for doing this. I am starting to wish I could just learned to be happy .

Marie: I'm sorry you feel so frustrated. It indeed must be difficult if you are living with a family who continues to make food choices outside those that are healthy. I, too, have a somewhat similar situation, but my family is trying to eat better. We must remember that the surgery is indeed only a tool to help us. Surgery will not fix our "heads." This is a battle we will face for the rest of our lives. I'm out almost six months and still get cravings sometimes. But the good news is, if I give in and try a few bites - it doesn't taste near as good as I remembered it. You're still awfully new to the adjustment you will be going through. Don't sweat it. Take one day at a time. The liquids do get on your nerves after a while, but this stage, too, will pass. Soon you will be on to soft foods like cottage cheese, yogurt, etc. Give yourself time. Abraham Lincoln once said something to the effect that it occurred to him that most people are about as happy as they want to be. That sums it up. It's up to you to make this work, follow your doctors orders and move into a new healthier life for yourself. You CAN do it!! I won't lie, there will be some tough times, but you'll get through it! If you can, find a friend through a support group near you who you can talk to. I have a good friend here who is about a year out who has been invaluable in helping me learn what to expect and how to approach my new life. Best wishes, Matt

its good to vent. but keep it in perpective. you are in the first days of a new journey for your whole system. allow time for things to settle. your stomach isn't healed as it will be in a few months. relax. before you know it the misery will be gone and the rewards will come pouring in. you will find that that so called "good" food everyone around you eats is not so good after all. your taste buds will become more refined. Not to mention the main attraction. YOU. Lookin so fine.

Its always hard at first. Just keep focused on how great you will be in a month or two months... or an event down the road. The first few days, week or two weeks after any major life change is hard. Maybe talk to your mom about how you are feeling and see if she can limit what she has in the house or at least not eat it in front of you. I dont know your family, so I dont know how they will react.... if they are defensive its more than likely jealousy that you have begun the first step to completely changing your life!!! Just have to approach it the right way and Id think they would understand. As for the head trip over food... my friend had the surgery 4 years ago... afterwords she said she felt her best friend had died because she could no longer eat like she wanted. She and her boyfriend had a huge fight... usually shed "medicate" herself by eating a x-large pizza and a pint of ice cream. Food is an addicition and a habit. Maybe head over to some support groups so you can talk about it with people who have the same issue... or find a counselor to speak with. Just have to find some other things to focus on (like shopping! woo hoo). Find somebody to be a "phone buddy" that you can call when you are having a rough time. Support is the best tool! Hope this helps