Decisions, Decisions, Decisions!!!
We make decisions everyday of our life. What will I wear today? What route do I take to work? Which bill gets paid first? What do I need from the grocery store? Which movie do I watch? Etc. etc. etc! You see, decisions are just a part of life.
For those that don't know, I am the father of an almost 10 year old! Wow, where did the time go? Everyday, I try to be the “super dad”. In other words the best that I can be! I think I do a decent job. Anyway, the one thing I have tried to do, even before I knew we were expecting, was to be the dad that was there for him, no matter what decisions were made!
I want to be the father that is there when my child makes a choice. If a bad choice is made, I want to pick him up, dust him off, and talk about what we learned from the experience. When he makes a good choice, I want to be there to rejoice and celebrate his decisions. You see, I know where my son is heading before he gets there.
Why? Because I have walked that path before. I know how hard that brick wall is when you hit it at 60 mph! I know the damage that can occur when bad choices are made. But would I be doing an injustice by making those decisions for him? Probably!
I believe it’s the same with weight loss. Would I be doing an injustice to you if I told you what to eat everyday? Probably! That is why we give advice. That is why we share what we have eaten . It gives people who are new to this sport some examples to live by. Will I ever tell you what to eat? No I won’t, that’s not my job. See your Nut for that one!
I will share with you though! I will share experiences that have succeeded as well as failed. I will try new things, just as you will. I believe we are here for a reason. We are here for SUPPORT!!! Support in our endeavors. Support in our failures. Support in our successes.
This is a mantra that I have long lived by, and I think it fits well right here at the
Give a man a fish and you feed him dinner. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime! We’re teachers…you, me, and that person sitting there reading this post! We can all learn from each other! We are all veterans to some extent of the word!
Have a great day !
That was very well said! I am very grateful for this board because I have been given so much support! I have learned from those who went before me. I will tell you that if anyone ever tried to "tell" me what to do...unsolicited...I would back them off in a heartbeat (I have a strong personality.) That's why I love it here. We're like a family.
Kisses to all!
Sissy Fred
Before...... Surgery...... Post-op.....
As a parent, just like yourself... I spent a lot of time trying to make decisions for my kids... Not cause I was bossy or cause I liked being the greasy wheel.... I did it because I did not want them to make the same choices that I did that were so painful. I wanted to shield them from that pain cause I had already been there and I was gonna save em some time, heartache and just pretty much overall pain....
However the harder that I fought to do that the harder that it came back to haunt me and hit me right in the face.... So everyday I am learning a little more and a little more how to let that go. I will never be completely cured but I am having to face the brutal realization that those are their decisions.... Not mine..... And as hard as I fought to save em from their own decisions, it did not matter... They were going to and did find ways around me to make their own decisions.....
We can not be Superparent.... Although the premise or notion is novel it will only cause us to become more and more similar with our worst fears. We were not designed to be Superdads.... we were planned to be purposed or projected to be the best human being that we could be. If you are still running for title of Superdad, then you my friend are gonna keep setting yourself up for more hurt, pain and disappointment. Don't buy in to the TV version that you are not measuring up... It is a lie..............
Ummm,, thank you for not telling me what to eat everyday.... Cause sometimes I think your suggestions for eating some things are pretty gross...... Oh yea, I feel kind of good about saying that to you cause I know you at the end of the day you are not gonna dislike me cause I was being honest.... Signed Trina (<-------- Not a Vet.... Just a wayward soul trying to get by like everyone else)
