HEART BROKEN

I know that I have talked to you all about this before. I am so sad, just got throw talking to my daughter..

My daughter is just the same as begging me not to have WLS. This really breaks my heart She does not believe that I can change my life styje with the sleeve. She said I can change my life with out WLS, if iwas going to change with the sleeve. It is very hard on me. She is wanting to make up a diet for me. She is afraid that tne WLS will hurt my body in the long run. There is no use trying to talk to her anymore about it. I have said and done everything I need to do. Thank you for being my sounding board.

God Bless
Evie

Evie, that truly makes it hard on you.  I didn't tell anyone hardly before mine for fear of being talked out of it..  You need to make the decision with your Doc and go with what you think is right.  Daughters worry a lot about their Moms as we do about them.

Bless you, Mary

I can kinda relate to you. Last night I ate supper and got a case of the slimies and didn't want to lay down and my hubby was hoping for some loving. So he got pissed and threw it in my face this is the reason why I didn't want to have surgery because I knew this would happen. I told him "sorry Ii am such a failure". Anyway he storm out of the house to go to the store. I gave him the slient treatment the rest of the night and today I told I was still pissed at him. I not going to hear anymore or there will be war. He knows better than that too.

Oh Evie, I'm so sorry that you don't have your daughter's support. It must be hard to have this conversation with her. Keep reminding yourself that you are doing this for you. There will always be those to show opposition in the choice we made to have WLS, but they will see how much happier and healthier that you become and your daughter will eventually come around. My son was afraid that I would change (whatever that means), but now he sees how happy I am with my progress and he's on board with it.


Hang in there. We are here for you.

Evie, I'm going to say this, and it's not the popular thing to say, but you need to quit allowing your daughter to "make you feel" this way. She is obviously not supportive, and is not going to give what you need. There is no reason that you need her approval, she is your child, and you deserve to do what is best for your life, and long-term health. If she can not accept it, THAT IS ON HER NOT YOU. I've read your previous posts regarding your daughter, and I am a firm believer that toxic people that want to belittle your need for WLS are only doing it because they are not at that point themselves. I understand she's found success with diet and exercise, YAY YAY, talk to her in another 10 years, after a life tragedy, and if she's able to keep it off for the next 10 years then celebrate her success as she should celebrate yours.

You can not convince her that this is what you NEED. It's not just a want anymore, and please stop subjecting yourself to her toxicity. I know you might not want to hear it, you might not want to recognize your daughter's behavior as toxic, but it is, and you do not need to put your body, mind or heart through it especially before surgery.

Did I miss the pregnancy post?

Yes ma'am, I "came out" a couple of weeks ago after the viability U/S with a strong, steady heartbeat seen and heard. I popped positive on March 1st, but waited 3 weeks because I wanted the U/S and to have the first consult with the ob/gyn to be able to share all the information for anyone else concerned about pregnancy post-VSG.
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/VSG/4359811/The-best-NSV-EVER-not-my-typical-photo-whoring-moment/
 

I agree.  Only YOU know what's right for YOU!

Once your daughter sees the success you've had with the sleeve, she'll hopefully change her mind and see that she was wrong and will be more supportive.

I agree, you are the parent and she is the child.  There appears to be a role reversal here, tell her you have made your decision, you are old enough and smart enough to make them on your own as you have done for many years and you are not open to discussing this any further.  Tell her to either get on board and support you or keep her opinions to herself.  You obviously don't tell her what to do with her life as you trust her to make appropriately good choices and she learned that from you.  Now she needs to back out and let you do the same.

I'm with USAF Wife...your daughter is not your bestie, she is your child and YOU have to do what's right for YOU...period.  My mother didn't always agree with MY decisions but I had to tell her to step back and let me make MY decisions.

Let us be your support.

Ms Shell