Frustration with Son

Ok, so I've lost a bunch and am feeling really good about it... But yesterday, my 18 year old son says "I think you're losing too much weight, too fast" I told him that I'm actually losing pretty slowly, but he was adamant that I am doing something terribly harmful to my body. I ended the conversation by saying that "What's done is done and there's no going back now!" of all people, I thought he would understand! He was really overweight two years ago, but worked hard and dieted and lost the weight. So, I'm just frustrated that someone who has "been there" isn't really in my corner. If it was a stranger, I would have told them to mind their own business, but this is my son who I adore! Ughhhhhhhhh!

Just frustrated and needed to vent. Thanks for listening!

That sort of thing can be frustrating...I just tell people (usually friends) that I'm doing everything in consultation with both my family and my bariatric doctors so they don't need to worry.

Having "been there" and having lost the weight through "hard work and diet" he may see your weight loss a excessively fast and is really feeling concerned.  After all...when you loose weight without the aid of surgery it can be a very long process.

Try to take his comments for how they were probably meant...genuine concern and love.

All the best.

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OK...I just spewed water on my keyboard reading this.  SO true and thanks for the laugh b_stewart! 

Me too! LMAO...

 Sweetheart I am so sorry. But ya know I think JJ is right in that he means well. Honestly being young and male made it easier for him to loose the 'old fashioned way' and so he may see the rapid surgical induced form as scarry. 

Also, I have 5 kids, son 20, son 19, son 15, daughter 13, son 12 and if there is one thing I have learned.......we really do think we know it all when we are young. For all their well intentioned remarks they can come across as a bit arrogant. LOL 

All in all let it roll of your shoulders as its a young man trying to show concern, which no man is awfully good at!!!! 

He is just showing you that he loves you in that awkward/confrontational/know it all way that boys do at that age (I have one in early 20s).  Mine like yours worked hard to lose weight via diet and exercise and is now an EXPERT, so he too offers his unsolicted opinion. 

My approach is slightly different... I hug him, and smooch up his cheek like I did when he was a little boy and say " I am so glad you love me and are concerned about me.  I will be sure to check with the Dr."  Of course he either give a weak hug or pushes away but for my kid I know, that he knows that I feel his love and concern.

(apologies to men here) After all they are men in training which means they are trying to "fix it" because they don't always know how to address the feelings.

Just remember he loves you and I am sure he is REALLY proud of you.

Hugs to you Jeni!!

I agree w/several others who have noted that your son is madly in love with you and is just trying to sort out his feelings of the moment.  Embrace him - after all, you can get closer now, right?  Give it a bit of time and he will see how wonderful you are feeling as the journey continues.  Of course he's worried about his mom, but he's still a teenager and, as a former high school teacher, I know a few things about them - they're all nuts sometimes, except when they're not; they're mean as hell sometimes, except when they're kind and compasionate.  And they're spiteful sometimes, except when their loving and trusting.  As I used to remind my teaching colleagues - "don't take it too seriously folks, after all, they are just kids-being-kids."  Best to you and congrats on your success so far.      Pop-Pop

Im due too have my surgery on June 6 and my son was trying too talk me out of it!I told him Ive been obesed too long,I asked him just be supported and not judgemental...