Death and Dying

Getting approved was a pain in the ass.  Even now I am jumping through what seems to be never ending hoops.  I also want to get past this so that I can help other people.  I want to help people appeal OHIP and win like I did, I want people like myself to gain access to proper medical care in a timely manner and must get through this because frankly I have too many plans....

Perhaps it is because my brother died at a young age that I am very aware of loss and never want to experience anything like that again.... I never want my family to suffer like that again.  However, I will have to simply move forward and pray for a great outcome.

I will let you know how it goes....

What you are feeling is real for everyone I dont have children nor do I have a husband and I have the same concern.  I think its natural to have a concern when you are going to have a a procedure done I was nervous when I had the endscopy as that was the first time I had been in the hospital for anything. 

Hey, you are having surgery a day before me...... good luck hun, you will be in my prayers! 

Unlike yourself, I have seen too much of hospitals.... always being tested for one thing or another (PCOS, infertility, arthritis, high blood pressure, diverticulitis.....)  this is also my second time through the process since I was originally approved in the states until OHIP started playing games (long story).  I can't tell you how good it is going to feel when I can start spending a little less time in hospitals!

Thanks for your words
Shay

Hi Shay,

I totally understand your fears but the risks of being obese could kill you too!  I have 3 kids and so I get the being scared of leaving them.  but I too wanted my kids to have a healthier hapieir Mom and I knew that I was in good hands with the doc I had.  There is always a risk to everything we do...even just walking across the street so I really wasn't that afraid of this.  It doesn't happen that often..really!  Keep your eye on the prize...that healthier you for you family.  This is honestly the best thing that I have ever done for me and I feel so much better than I have in years..and so much healthier.  I would do it again in a second!  Good luck to you and please keep us posted.  We are here for you..if you have any other questions please just ask.  Being afraid is normal just don't let it stop you.  Be excited!!

Patty

Seeing that you have 4.8 pounds to go makes me want this even more!  Wow, good for you, I can barely imagine how you must feel.  I will be sure to keep everyone posted and hope and look forward to the day that I have 4.8 pounds to go!

THANK YOU!!! :)
Shay

I have a husband and pretty close to a perfect, wonderful life and believe me, it's completely natural to think about death and dying during surgery. But you have more of a chance of dying of obesity related conditions (whether diagnosed or underlying) than you do with having this surgery. That's why they do the pre-op testing and screening. Not to say something can't happen, but if it were meant too, it could happen during something simple like a tooth extraction. Life is never guaranteed.

As with trying to convince people? It's not really any of their business what you do with your body but I understand that uninformed loved ones might have issues with WLS. I would just explain that if you were sick with cancer or heart disease you would have the treatments (i.e. chemo or triple bypass)that were available to you to help you get healthy and that you need treatment for obesity for the same reasons.

Hope this helps you. Now get the damn surgery and get healthy! You're gonna love your sleeve!

Ha,  I am reading this while drinking my lovely Optifast shake and think I will do just as you have suggested :)

My surgery is this Tuesday and I am experiencing the same fears. I have been experiencing them for a few weeks and they intensify as the time draws near. I talk to myself when those thoughts come about. Depression has kept me from doing so much and I relate that to my obesity as well. So I tell myself o.k. would I rather live miserable and unhealthy or take a chance at life again. I try to put those fears a side although I know its a reality. Sometimes to gain something good we have to take a leap. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! See you on the losing side ;-)

Your surgery is a day ahead of mine and we are close in weight as well.  Let's just try to stay focused and understand how great it is that we can be granted this tool to begin with

Yes, that sounds great:  "see you on the losing side"

Shay

You have more chances of gettin hit by a speeding school bus in a school zone, or dyin from obesity related medical issues... than ya do of dyin from VSG!

The #1 regret on this board is I DIDN'T DO IT SOONER

As a MOM boy can I RELATE!! Always puttin everyone FIRST...me on the backburner! So common for us MOMs! My kids were 18 &19 when I declared 2008 A.D. THE YEAR OF THE MOM!..had no other choice, losing weight, gaining weight without medical intervention... all throughout my kids lives...just gettin older and fatter and sicker.

I deprived THEM of a healthy and energetic MOM...I wanted to live to see my daughter walk down the aisle..and to see my son hold down a job for more than 6 months! HA!

I DID do it for ME...but like ALL Mom's I also DID it for them!

Its somethin else...seeing the PRIDE for ME...comin from MY CHILDERN'S EYES...its PRICELESS...and its still there!

YA MUST GO THROUGH THESE PHASES SHA...BEFORE YOU CAN SEE THE BIG PICTURE
so head's up!
pre-op
fear of failing again (we got some major precedence!) , the drasticness of this surgery, doubts , pre-op jitters and second thoughts ....thousands of us can relate!
post op
buyers remorse, guilt, shame, mournin our lost stomachs, absence of huge amounts of food to comfort us, thinking what have I done to myself...thousands of us can relate!

the hardest part of getting from point A to point B...is bein in the MIDDLE

GO THROUGH....each one of these phases...and persevere!

Do this for YOU...but also DO IT for HER!