"Back then they didn't want me; now I'm hot and they all on me..."

I geuss I could have posted SOMETHING more positive! LOL!!  But I remember being a skinny young thing, when I was pregnant with my oldest daughter (now 24)  and younger guys than me (about 10 years younger, ALMOST teenage) would say things from the looks of my back side, but then when I turned around, LOL, they were like, OOPS!!!!  Saw that I was pregnant! My daughter was the same way with my Grandson! LOL!!!! I grew an attitude pretty quick when I started gaining the weight!

Yep sad but very true. People in general treat you better. I was out the other night and this guy made it a point to call me gorgeous! I was stunned some random man stopped me in public to say that. This would have never happened when I was bigger. I would have been sitting in a corner somewhere pulling at my clothes making sure everything was covered. Watching all the action. Or be at home.

Some years back I did some major crash dieting and working out. I had lost weight after baby#2 and was looking good. I was walking around that summer (because I only kept the weight off for like a season!) and was wearing mini's and short dresses and guys were checking me out left and right. It was a trip and a major ego booster for hubby.

Stay true to yourself and don't let that kind of thing upset you. Fact is that our society is focused on the visual and smaller people are deemed as more intelligent and attractive. WE all know this is not the case!.

I totally get you girl! I would go out clubbing with my girls (and I am married so I don't need a dude but its nice to be wanted ya know) and they'd all be hooking up and Id get some weird dude at the end of the night to tell me I was "cute" and try to grab a lil booby… FML… I love it I went out with my sis the other weekend and this hot dude walks right up to me sober and grabs my hand and drags me to the dance floor! I was like FML **** sure has changed in 3 months!!! Then within minutes I realized I was still the same old idiot Jen when he tried to high five me and I missed and shoved my thumb in his eye! LOL luckily he was a nice hot guy and hugged me and went on his merry way. I noticed that I get noticed a lot more. Before I was always noticed but only for my boobs…. nothing else now that not all they look at and they don't have to be wasted! hahaha One of my clients yesterday said "damn girl you're so skinny" I wanted to hug him!!! Now only if my husband thought the weightloss was attractive.
I always say I did this for my health.. I am a ******G LIAR, I did this to wear cute ****! No lie… I was pretty ******g healthy I just didn't feel like me and I wanted to look on the outside like the person I felt like I was on the inside. Its like being a flamingo stuck in a pigeons body… Im pink and tall and can stand on one foot now *****es!!!!

Jenn, you write like no one else I know. Nearly made me snort my coffee out my nose. You should write a book, I'm serious.

I have a feeling you will be feeling so good about yourself and so optimisic about life in general, those days will no longer be a concern.

My hubby sings that damn song all the time! Ha ha.. I have not had oodles of extra attention, and I am married anyway... But I would think I would just be flattered, take it as a compliment to all of my hard work, and go home and tell my hubby about it.. Which would prob cause him to sing that damn song again! Lol

First of all I think it is AWESOME that you loved yourself all along!  I was the same way.  I was fat but I was 280 of goddess.  Lol.  Just because they cannot see that is their problem.  Now that I am down to 170 I get them all looking and I still have 50 pounds to go.  The one thing that I have noticed is the other moms at my daughters school all of sudden want to talk to me and invite me to do things.  This really ticks me off since she is in a private Christian school and it is such a huge lose for them because I am HILARIOUS!!!  I always was popular off my comedy.  Lol.  Anyways it is amazing to get that attention and I actually go and wear my cute clothes and treat them the way I wish they would have treated me and I think they feel bad about it so I am just enjoying being able to look like I feel and am on the inside!  You sound like me and so I am guessing you are awesome!  So love you the way you are now and just let the guys eat their foot once you walk in at your bombshell weight:)

I notice these changes

*I ride on the train (subway) and i get smiles and glances when i was larger but now I get a hello, nod, longer glances.  I smile back and sometimes I forget that its because i look a little different maybe they think more attractive.  

* I get more date invitations from the opposite sex

I wonder as I go through this transition how much more attention will I get.  I love the attention and I thought I would be angry but I enjoy it.  I think its because I am newly seperated .  

Anyway I am never used to it because its so different then before.

I havent had those moments but.......i remember one time i was out at the bar..and this guy said to me, "if you lost weight, you would be Gods gift to man"...my reply was this:  Baby I already am! and I walked away...I figure if they didnt look before they arent worth it..Now a person who did  not know you before is a different story, attraction is attraction..