Vent: Ugly, fat day

I feel like I just need to get this out there and y'all seem like the only people who would understand.  I was already feeling fat (even though I lost this week hmmmm) after seeing my pictures from Colorado.  All I could see was a gut.  And legs.  I let my hair go too long without highlighting and so I was really excited to do maintenance on it today.  I have naturally blonde hair and then put bleach blonde highlights in.  Well, my new hairdresser (first problem...I guess I ought to go back with the lady that is consistently late but at least knows me) suggests I get "root lifter" to really brighten my hair and make it lighter.  I'm home now and it looks caramel!!!    Much darker and warmer than I ever go.  It's now about the color of my skin.  Even after I told her I liked icy/silver/champagne blonde.  I'm trying to be calm because I know it always looks better after a couple days, but I feel anxious in my own body.  My skin is crawling.  And every time I pass a mirror I want to BAWL.  And no, I'm not anywhere near starting my period.  

(((Hugs)))  Now you know that you are neither fat nor ugly. Every recent pic I have seen of you shows a radiant beauty. But I know we are our own biggest critics so I feel you there.  Now as for the hair...I suggest you go back to that hairdresser and tell her you aren't happy.  They should fix ya up for free.  I know the color will lighten with time, but you paid for it and you should have it the way you like.  In the mean time, gaze away from mirrors and windows until you feel better.

Oh, I am so sorry you feel that way.  You are gorgeous!  Although I have not had my surgery yet I know how you feel.  I guess we all have those moments where we just feel awful about us and everything around us.  I also believe if you are not happy go back and explain just like you did here your unhappiness with it.  All will be better "tomorrow" and if not look foward to "tomorrow", and so on.  I pray everything works out for you.

All the pictures I've seen you look pretty daggum good so you've nothing to worry about in that aspect....for the hair...I'm a red head who tried on a whim to bleach my hair in college simply because a girl told me to....and after about 20 bleachings with progressive stronger bleaches my hair was still red but was laying on the ground....so I guess the only moral here is as long as it is still in it is correctable lol...

I know just how you feel. The last time I had my hair trimmed the girl cut WAY too much off and I felt like crying everytime I looked in the mirror. Some stylists seem to do whatever pleases them rather than the client. Wait for a few days and if it doesn't grow on you, go and get it lightly re-done. Just be careful you don't do alot and fry your hair.

((HUGS)) I know how you feel hun.. I have days like that all the time.. but you know in your head that you don't look the way you feel you do. As for the hair.. my hairdressers never seem to do what I want them to.. and I am specific- I take pictures and even color samples with me! They always say, you wouldn't like it.. blah, blah.. and when they do what they want it looks nice.. but I still pine for what I asked for in the first place... Ugh.. seriously though, the other posters are right- if its still on your head, it is fixable, and they should color correct for free..

Again, ((HUGS)) beautiful lady!

Girl, you're gorgeous!!!  I know what you mean about looking at a picture and being super critial.  But, you've come so far!!!  Love yourself. 

As for the hair, if it doesn't grow on you, go back or go to another salon and get it re-done... carefully. 

((((HUGS!!!))))

I used to dye my hair red.. I loved bright flamboyant red..think Ginger Spice. Well I had a hair dresser who ended up making my hair Fuchsia! Holy cow!

I drove a convertible at the time and I can't tell you how many people damn near got into car accidents craning to see me with my FUCHSIA hair blowing in the wind!!! After a short time of being upset, I decided that I was going to ROCK my Fuchsia hair.

I didn't have the money to fix it at the time and didn't want to risk making it worse or damaging my hair and I didn't trust that hairdresser anymore. I ended up having so much fun with that color!

I remember going to a fair and the fun comments from folks like being called a "Crimson Lass" and all the compliments. Although I did end up getting my hair re-colored when the Fuchsia faded and I had the funds, I did not go back to that color but I totally rocked it and made the best of it.

So take your caramel hair (sounds beautiful by the way!) and rock it.. then get it changed when you can. Your true beauty really is your personality and your brains.. you have both in abundance.

Isn't it crazy that no matter if it is 10 pounds or 200 pounds that we want to lose, we still feel "fat".  And, when we feel like someone has messed up our hair, it is like they messed with you soul!  That's a very important part of any person's self image.
Can you call the hairdresser and tell nicely her you are just not happy and could she correct your color to the way you requested?  In any even, it is summertime, your hair will lighten a little just from that fact.


I hope you shake all this off.  Give yourself a hug, square your shoulders, and know that your mind is LYING to you!   

I don't know you very well but I have checked out your pictures and you look great!!!!!!!! I just hope things work out and you begin feeling better because you are looking good and I cannot wait to be at least close to where you are. Try to see the positives and let go of the negatives. Wish you all the best.