DH has lost his mind...

OK, so I know that with weight loss there can be jealousy and weird feelings with the spouse. But I SWEAR I never thought it would affect us. My husband thinks I'm having an affair (I'm not). He's POSITIVE of this because he "just feels it". He's started asking me where I'm going and who I'm with EVERY time I leave the house. He actually followed me last weekend to see where I went. I went to a GROCERY STORE. UGH. It's making me crazy. I have known this man since 7th grade. He knew me when I was skinny, in high school. We met up again 11 years ago and have been together ever since. I have no intention of going anywhere, but today, he was threatening to LEAVE ME if I didn't tell him who I was seeing! I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone or something.
Anyway, watch your husbands for signs of insanity. It may be catching! Now I'll have something GOOD to talk about in therapy next week. LOL.
...he's calmed down, but I can see this is going to be an ongoing issue.

I know you going to think this is horrible but....

Could he be having/had an affair? I never thought my ex would do that but he was seeing someone else within days of me giving birth.  I figured it out be looking at the cell phone bill.

Some is making he nervous...

Nah... he loves me. He's a flirt, but that's it. No numbers in his wallet, no weird calls to his cell. He's just flippin' cuz I lost this weight! ARG!

Yeah. It is a horrible thought, but I thought it too. My uncle got crazy jealous and he had cheated on my aunt for years. Sometimes people can't get beyond what they themselves are capable of doing.

*sigh* you hear about this so much. I hope he straightens out before he loses the one he loves.

I went through the same thing with my husband when I lost 100 lbs.  Although I am still large and am awaiting VSG surgery my husband went through this phase where he acted like this.  He thought I was going to leave him or run around. He was jealous of my friends and he told me that he did not like who I had become because I was more outgoing and social.  It got to the point where it was so tense that we were sleeping in seperate rooms and he had no interest in me but contempt.  I went to a therapist about this and she kept telling me that it had nothing to do with me but with his insecurities.  She gave me some techniques to try and bond with him.  We made it through that rough patch relatively unscathed but it was rough for a bit.  Fact is I love him so much and he is my soul mate. I would never cheat on him. I only want to be with him.  He has loved me when I was at my worst and heaviest so it was very hard to go through this phase of him being jealous when I was in a thinner state.  We are in a much better place now and he has joined me in excercise and trying to live a healthier lifestyle which helped tremendously.  I hope you get through this quickly.

I hate to say it, but I think some of it is normal if you really love the person. My hubby is very good looking when he is thin. He just looks pretty average when he's heavier. I often think it would be nice for him to look like that again, and then I think of all the women that would be hitting on him at work and decide, he's fine the way he is now. Ha Ha

I am sure once your hubby gets used to it for a while and sees that you still adore him, he'll adjust. I honestly think I would be jealous and insecure if the shoe was on the other foot. My hubby says I loved him and even married him when I was thin, so he doesn't worry about it.
But I think I would be insecure about it for a while.

I wish your hubby didn't go so far overboard though. He must really love you and not want to lose you. I am no expert but I would think if you show him lots of attention and tell him how much you love being married to him a little extra while he is adjusting, maybe it would help. I certainly don't know, but that would be my guess.

Good luck. I am sure it will all work out in time.

 Men are such retards… my hubbys on the opposite side of this. He cant see that Ive really changed all that much. Even today when I took of my binder and was showing him my new tummy he was like, well its still swollen so it looks the same… WTF??? It hung like a mile over.. is he blind???? He sends me on my way dancing half naked and it never occurs to him that anyone would ever be attracted to me… FML… guess both sides of the spectrum suck ass… well… I hope your hubby get a firm grip on reality soon and if not I can start sending you presents marked "from your lovahhh" just for ****s and giggles!

That's how mine USED to be! That's what makes this all the more ****** up! We could go to a party and I could go hang with all my homies... male or female! I could hug whoever I wanted, sit on their laps, etc. (don't read TOO far into that "etc."). It was the same with him... he could flirt with all the chicas he wanted to. We both knew at the end of the night, we were leaving together. Ugh. Men suck.

HAHA, he has accused me of being with a lesbian friend of mine, too! So, sure... send those cards and gifts! At least I'll be getting something outta this **** right?? LMAO
PS: I like black roses!

I'm so sorry!  He sounds like he is feeling really insecure and threatened.  Yes, good topic for therapy.  My advice: do not tell him he is nuts--he might only feel more and more insecure.  I would go with the previous advice as well, let him know how much you want to be with him.  That this is normal for some couples to go through, but you're not going anywhere.  You could readily answer questions about where/who/etc., and tell him you're glad to do it if it helps him feel more secure. This must be so unpleasant for both of you.  I'll keep you in my thoughts--hope it resolves quickly.
Jenny