I Think I'm Very Obsessed About Being As Skinny As Possible (Teenager)

I believe that I'm so obsessed to be a skinny as possible. It is probably due to the conception of society as being skinny. When I was younger, I would rather so skinny that my all my bones are show through my skin that be big and sadly, sometimes, I still think I should. I know that is as unhealthy as being fat, probably it is worse, but I just do. If I do have wls, I should aim for 190lbs, since I'm 300 to 310lbs, but deep down sometimes I'm hoping for 110 to 120lbs, even 100lbs, which is downright dangerous to deadly for a male who is 5'10, actually less possible unless one starves themselves. I know some who are reading this think that this one reason why kids shouldn't have wls because they aren't mentally ready. I just wanted to express myself on here and get some advice and if possible how much I should expect to weigh, though everyone differs when losing weight with them being male or female, different ages, heights, starting weights, or having a VSG or DS. Thank you for your responses!

I would guess 170-160 could be a realistic goal weight if you're doing things the right way and focusing on eating healthy and exercising. I think you have some other things to work out prior to considering wls. Maybe you should explore body issues with a professional.

That would put me in the normal bmi calculator and my mom believes that I will grow to maybe 6 feet tall. Though I shouldn't worry about that.

 You need to see these old adds making the skinny people feel "unpopular and unsexy".   
www.retronaut.co/2011/11/vintage-weight-gain-ads/

Wow. I always thought that during the 50s and 60s people started to prefer being thin than being thicker. I really think that powerful and famous men set societal standards then the rest of society, specifically under or unconfident women, to reach this standard then unconfident some men try to reach their own standards to catch up to those unconfident women. Hope what I'm trying to say is understandable and I'm not trying to offend anyone.

Wow! I don't know what to say.
 
I am just quiet concerned about your goals. You are right about society thinking thin is in but I am not sure it's so much to that extreme with men. I could be wrong but personally I am not really attracted to "skinny" men. I dated a "skinny" guy once and seeing his bones really grossed me out. It was way to feminine for me.

Anyway, I think the other girl was right that no less than like 160 would really be good at your height and being male. I think you should consider talking to someone though. Shooting for 120 or less sounds like you have some desires that might not be healthy for you. I am a 5'4", female and I was a size 2 at that weight, way back when. I agree that it could be deadly for a man to get that thin.

I think not obsessing about anything is the better goal, at least for me. I have done my share of obsessing for sure and for me, it's not a healthy place to be. I would advise you to just relax and enjoy your life, at whatever weight you are at. Please don't set yourself up with some insane goal. Just love yourself and take care of yourself. Obsessing will only kill your joy and waste your life.

My advice to you is, enjoy the ride. Don't make it a crazy roller coaster. Life is too short to waste it obsessing about anything. You are young, enjoy the wonderful gift that is youth.

Good luck on your journey, I wish you the best.

Thank you! I shouldn't be obsessed with it and luckily it is only in part of my mind and not consuming most, but it is still almost constantly there. I guess because my generation girls just like skinny for the most part, though I shouldn't pay attention to this since many adults believe that our generation is messed up overall.

I was really worried about picking a goal at first.  I promised myself I would forget a number and keep going until it felt right.  I take it 10 pounds at a time now.  That way it doesn't seem so overwhelming.  I also don't like a too skinny man.  Think about Wesley Snipes- way hotter than JJ from Good Times.  Girls like some muscle over the bones, which is what you'll get when you eat right and work out to get healthy.  I think it is OK for teenagers to have the surgery as long as their head is in the right place.  i actually admire people so young who are aware that it is hard work and are willing to make the commitment for a healthy life.  Sam, 170 looks great on a man that's 5'10" but don't get your heart set on a number until you try it on for size and talk about it with your doc and nutritionist.  Since you said the word obsession I think some time with a psych who works primarily with food issues would be good for  you.  I think it would benefit any of us on this site.  Good luck with this.  I'm really looking forward to hearing about your future success.

I appreciate that. I don't really have a clue how 170lbs would look on me so thinking that 120lbs or less would look better would be senseless. First, I would have to decide when to even have wls, so I shouldn't worry about my reality weight and dream/hope weight.

I agree with the posters who urged you to seek counseling. You don't want to trade obesity for something far more dangerous (anorexia or bulemia).