Don't give me that "Oh, you had surgery to lose weight" look!
I know that look . . . but honestly I dont care what others think . . . if they find it easy they do not know what all is involved . . . it has been the best choice for me!
It is a process and step in the process of a solution but it is up to us sleevers to make it work for us . . .the same ugly habits can raise their heads again. We still fight to make this tool work for us. So let em thing what they want! We are making strides to make ourselves healthier and we can say the sleeve helped!!
SO WHO CARES WHAT OTHERS THINK???? NOT ME!!
It is a process and step in the process of a solution but it is up to us sleevers to make it work for us . . .the same ugly habits can raise their heads again. We still fight to make this tool work for us. So let em thing what they want! We are making strides to make ourselves healthier and we can say the sleeve helped!!
SO WHO CARES WHAT OTHERS THINK???? NOT ME!!
On the journey to something new . . . 
You know...I REALLY struggled with this when my cardiologist first suggested WLS to me in 2009--NOT from the perspective of looking at those individuals who had the surgery already and thinking they had taken the easy way out...quite honestly I usually don't judge people for decisions that don't have anything to do with me. BUT I did judge myself from that whole "easy way out" view.
I think of myself as being strong, independent and in control---with the exception of FOOD...
So I just could not wrap my head around the thought of giving up....of crying 'uncle"....of saying, fine! go ahead surgeon---YOU do it for me.
I have not yet had my sleeve (waiting for approval and scheduling) but I have, as I usually do, researched and researched and listened to people like all of you who have and are continuing to go through this and I have now EDUCATED myself. I now know that WLS is not "doing it for me"...it simply will give me the tools to enable me to restart myself....to take the needle off the record and move it to a new spot that does not keep skipping. (you younguns may not get this part...LOL).
Soooo, in short--my answer is two-fold:
1. Who gives a s*** what people think....THOSE THAT MATTER, DON'T JUDGE YOU, THOSE THAT JUDGE YOU, DO NOT MATTER!
2. How do you think you've lost weight? Surgery? or....working your butt off and fixing what was broke so that you can work correctly again? THAT is your answer to their curious, sometimes envious...but mostly good intended question of how did you do it?!?
"I worked really hard and ate right and just did what I had to do FOR ME". If they continue on with....did you have surgery? You can either answer YES- boldly (which is how I roll) or you can say, to them, "forgive me for not answering, and I will forgive you for asking." If they then give you the "look" or comment in a perceived negative tone, then I will answer, "Yes, that is what I thought, until I educated myself."
I think of myself as being strong, independent and in control---with the exception of FOOD...
So I just could not wrap my head around the thought of giving up....of crying 'uncle"....of saying, fine! go ahead surgeon---YOU do it for me.
I have not yet had my sleeve (waiting for approval and scheduling) but I have, as I usually do, researched and researched and listened to people like all of you who have and are continuing to go through this and I have now EDUCATED myself. I now know that WLS is not "doing it for me"...it simply will give me the tools to enable me to restart myself....to take the needle off the record and move it to a new spot that does not keep skipping. (you younguns may not get this part...LOL).
Soooo, in short--my answer is two-fold:
1. Who gives a s*** what people think....THOSE THAT MATTER, DON'T JUDGE YOU, THOSE THAT JUDGE YOU, DO NOT MATTER!
2. How do you think you've lost weight? Surgery? or....working your butt off and fixing what was broke so that you can work correctly again? THAT is your answer to their curious, sometimes envious...but mostly good intended question of how did you do it?!?
"I worked really hard and ate right and just did what I had to do FOR ME". If they continue on with....did you have surgery? You can either answer YES- boldly (which is how I roll) or you can say, to them, "forgive me for not answering, and I will forgive you for asking." If they then give you the "look" or comment in a perceived negative tone, then I will answer, "Yes, that is what I thought, until I educated myself."
Yes, I would say "Damn right!" too, if the comment had been straight on. But it wasn't. It was covert...a look. But, I knew in my heart what it meant.
I've never judged anyone that had WLS before except for the few people that had it and gained all the weight back. It wasn't so much judgement- but when I was told they had the surgery and saw how large they became again- my response was "Why go through all that and then let yourself get big again?" I never saw it as an easy way out. I actually saw this as a last ditch effort in a desperate attempt for someone at their whits end... easy??? puleez!!!!!
I pretty much told everyone I wanted it. They didn't think I was big enough to need it, but that if it made me happy then they wished me the best. Nothing negative. We're also working in a hospital so maybe they have a better understanding. I dont' know. The hospital has a bariatric surgery center so we see this every single day!
One thing I do know and I absolutely HATE- is when skinny people- who NEVER had a weight problem- and who are under weight, if anything- try and tell you what to do in order to lose weight. They try to order you around like they can relate or understand. And most give ridiculous and stupid advice not based on anything other than their own stupidity of what they consider a good way to lose weight....it really lights a fire on my nerves when that happens... So! Having said all that- my point is that we shouldn't give a damn what others think. Do what makes you happy. If losing weight and getting thinner is what will make you happy then do whatever it takes (legally and healthfully) to do it! YOUR HAPPINESS is ultimately what is most important!
I pretty much told everyone I wanted it. They didn't think I was big enough to need it, but that if it made me happy then they wished me the best. Nothing negative. We're also working in a hospital so maybe they have a better understanding. I dont' know. The hospital has a bariatric surgery center so we see this every single day!
One thing I do know and I absolutely HATE- is when skinny people- who NEVER had a weight problem- and who are under weight, if anything- try and tell you what to do in order to lose weight. They try to order you around like they can relate or understand. And most give ridiculous and stupid advice not based on anything other than their own stupidity of what they consider a good way to lose weight....it really lights a fire on my nerves when that happens... So! Having said all that- my point is that we shouldn't give a damn what others think. Do what makes you happy. If losing weight and getting thinner is what will make you happy then do whatever it takes (legally and healthfully) to do it! YOUR HAPPINESS is ultimately what is most important!
Start weight: 252 pounds
High weight: 268 pounds
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