HURT FEELINGS "venting"
I know I just posted a good complement.
But this hurt me more than any words could say. I have a close friend, we both been busy and have not talked or seen each other since my surgery.
One day I saw her in Wal Mart and I was so excited to show her that I had finally lost weight. We both have tried so hard together to lose weight, to just fail. My friend looked at me and started shaking her head and said IL' Evie you look anorexia, you lost all the weight in you face, your face has fallen, talking about loose skin. I really put on a big happy act and turned and showed her how much smaller my hips were and tried to act really happy. But her words cut me like a knife. I guess she is one of the people I wanted to be proud of me. She is a truthful person and tells you what she thinks. But she is still over 200 lbs. Small faces run on my side of Mom's family, big butts does also, Lil. How do you get over something like this. I know I am being very over sensitive, that is just the type of person I am, I wear My heart on my sleeve. Noone else has ever said I looked bad, maybe just to be nice, I don't know.
Anyway even before my friend said anything I had planned on getting upper and lower eye lids done maybe a brow lift in May. I am going to try to get the loose skin removed under my neck also, later. Look the best I can, just refreshed. Dr's working on getting my ins to approve a TT, so we will see.
I am sorry this is so long, but I felt like you all could understand my hurt.
God Bless
Evie
But this hurt me more than any words could say. I have a close friend, we both been busy and have not talked or seen each other since my surgery.
One day I saw her in Wal Mart and I was so excited to show her that I had finally lost weight. We both have tried so hard together to lose weight, to just fail. My friend looked at me and started shaking her head and said IL' Evie you look anorexia, you lost all the weight in you face, your face has fallen, talking about loose skin. I really put on a big happy act and turned and showed her how much smaller my hips were and tried to act really happy. But her words cut me like a knife. I guess she is one of the people I wanted to be proud of me. She is a truthful person and tells you what she thinks. But she is still over 200 lbs. Small faces run on my side of Mom's family, big butts does also, Lil. How do you get over something like this. I know I am being very over sensitive, that is just the type of person I am, I wear My heart on my sleeve. Noone else has ever said I looked bad, maybe just to be nice, I don't know.
Anyway even before my friend said anything I had planned on getting upper and lower eye lids done maybe a brow lift in May. I am going to try to get the loose skin removed under my neck also, later. Look the best I can, just refreshed. Dr's working on getting my ins to approve a TT, so we will see.
I am sorry this is so long, but I felt like you all could understand my hurt.
God Bless
Evie
You said that she was honest and I recommend that you do the same.
Tell her how her comments made you feel. If she expects others to respect her for her honestly, I would expect that she be able to do the same. I would be matter of fact about it as well as how it surprised you.
Tell her how her comments made you feel. If she expects others to respect her for her honestly, I would expect that she be able to do the same. I would be matter of fact about it as well as how it surprised you.
Consult: 270 Surgery: 256 1 Month: 237 2 Mos: 223 3 Mos: 208 4 Mos: 198
5 Mos: 188 6 Mos:178 7 Mos: 169
Great Advice! If she is so honest.....you should be also!
Also, I bet she is upset it's not her! I know we are all adult, but it is still hard to still be on "the other side" when your best friend is not anymore.
I'm thankful that my best friend is only 100 pounds soaking wet! ahahahahahah
Also, I bet she is upset it's not her! I know we are all adult, but it is still hard to still be on "the other side" when your best friend is not anymore.
I'm thankful that my best friend is only 100 pounds soaking wet! ahahahahahah
VSG 3/07/12 HW:260 SW: 249 CW:164
I agree with Sara. If she is someone you hold in high enough regard that she was on your list of people you wanted to be proud, I would at least let her know how that felt and give her a chance to correct the situation. Maybe she didn't mean it quite the way you took it? I only say that because I am the world's worst about always interpreting people in the most upsetting way possible, so I know it happens lol.
Either way, it'll give you an opportunity to respond and feel some sense of self defense in the situation, which I bet will make you feel better.
I'm worried about loose skin in my face too... I have a terrible double chin!
Either way, it'll give you an opportunity to respond and feel some sense of self defense in the situation, which I bet will make you feel better.
I'm worried about loose skin in my face too... I have a terrible double chin!
Highest weight: 277 Starting Weight: 250 Surgery Weight: 241 Current Weight: 130
Goal Reached in 10.5 months :)
Evie,
I'm so sorry you're hurt and I so understand. But those who are closest to us our the ones who can hurt us the worse. I agree that you should let her know how hurt you are and I'm sure she didn't think before she spoke and if she knew she hurt you hopefully she would feel horrible. You have come very far so please don't let ANYONE take the joy and satisfaction that you feel now. Don't give them the power.
Jeanne
I'm so sorry you're hurt and I so understand. But those who are closest to us our the ones who can hurt us the worse. I agree that you should let her know how hurt you are and I'm sure she didn't think before she spoke and if she knew she hurt you hopefully she would feel horrible. You have come very far so please don't let ANYONE take the joy and satisfaction that you feel now. Don't give them the power.
Jeanne
I have heard the same kind of thing. I just smile, and agree, and say, yes, I have more wrinkles....everywhere, but I've lost 0ver 120 fu@#ing pounds, and I wear each wrinkle, and each flap of skin as a badge and reward now ! And I say it happily and loud.
Screw em if they don't like it. I lost weight to be healthier, and happier with myself. I don't need anyone's praise, nor their misplaced silly comments on my sagging parts. One day, she will have saggy baggy parts too. Then you can comment on them, and her extra poundage too.
DO this journey for yourself. Then you don't have to please anyone else...
Screw em if they don't like it. I lost weight to be healthier, and happier with myself. I don't need anyone's praise, nor their misplaced silly comments on my sagging parts. One day, she will have saggy baggy parts too. Then you can comment on them, and her extra poundage too.
DO this journey for yourself. Then you don't have to please anyone else...
Briar Rose 
High Wt 300 lbs. Pre-op Wt loss 34 lbs.
High Wt 300 lbs. Pre-op Wt loss 34 lbs. 
To put it simply, let her know how that hurt you. We're only human after all. I remember feeling jealous when my friend lost so much weight and I was still the same size. Sadly, I know what it's like to be on the other end of the stick, but what I learned is that I was just being rude and mean because I wanted what she had. I was like a child, and in order to shield my pain I chose to take it out on someone who was doing so well.
“I can do all this through him who gives me strength.? Philippians 4:13 (NIV) 
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