Why-Loose Skin....???

Agreed.  Add to that the fact that some people, particularly women, get more emotional due to hormones, etc after surgery, or even before surgery as they lose during preop, and this issue can just be one more log on the fire.

Jumping into this side conversation.. I have to admit, when I dieted down from 308 to where I am now, more than 15 years ago.. I was shocked at how bad the skin was, and it WAS a huge deal to me. I had never seen myself totally deflated. It messed with my mind. After working my ass off to lose that much weight over a year and a half to be left with so much skin that I did say on more than one occasion that I preferred me filled out with fat.. A small hurt part of me really meant it. I slowly started to accept it, and I dated.. and no guy acted weird or jumped out of bed :) but.. it bothered me. By the time I started to accept it (years) I had already started to slowly regain..

This time, I think it's not so much of a freak-out due to the fact that I know what to expect.. for a person, especially a younger single person to see it for the first time.. yeah, it's shocking and can get pretty emotional. You can know in your mind what may be, but until you actually see it- you can't predict how you will react. For a lot of us, at least those getting to a normal size for the first time, or in a very long time.. you have an ideal in mind, when it shatters and we see the damage done- it's downright painful. 

Yep... agree completely.

And I think I'll be okay with it for the most part, but that doesn't mean it won't bother me a little at times.  Glad you understand that.

I've been there (and am there again) how can I not understand it? I may have only reached a HW of 300ish.. but my skin elasticity sucks. I have a big panni. I have a flippy weird upper panni- the kind you can only fix with the anchor TT. Let's not talk about the batwings or thigh-scrotum. 

It is important to put things in perspective and get therapy, which is why health is top priority for me.  Not dying from diabetes, heart disease, etc. or having a seriously disabled life due to joint problems brought on by the fat within the excess skin that I already had is why I had the VSG. I want to live to see so many of my life plans realized. 

- I don't have a smart phone or digital camera, or gas guzzling SUV, or a computer less than 6 years old, or a flat television. I renewed my passport but haven't left the country in a decade. I don't take vacations and just try to get in a fun evening here and there at business conferences. But I managed to pay for this surgery and I will pay for my skin to be cut the f*** off when it is time. Why? My health is top priority.

The excess skin is EXACTLY where I thought it would be. I was never in denial. If it wasn't there I probably would be in Onderland by now or within 5 pounds of it and where a size 12 or 14.  But It is there and there is no point of flipping out over it. In the meantime, I look great and feel great. I choose to be positive.

And I think that it is healthy for pre-ops to hear that point of view too.

 
Compliments to you.......

frisco

Wow... is this cussing directed at me?  I was simply voicing my perspective.  No need to get ugly. 

Obviously my health is a priority for me too... I did manage to pay for the surgery on a credit card.  But I also don't want to get to a point where all of my family's disposable income revolves around what surgery I need next.  That doesn't seem fair to my husband or to my (hopefully) future kids.  Not saying that things might not change and I won't ever be able to pay for plastics... just not looking very hopeful in the next several years.

I do agree that preops need to know that loose skin is a very probable reality.  I just don't think we need to be harsh about it, considering this is something most of us have at least thought of once or twice preop.

No cussing directed at anyone. It is just my phrase. I'm cutting it the F off!  Yep. I said it again. That's my phrase. No drama here. I'm pretty chipper today.

What is harsh to you is up to you.  I thought the original post was just fine and a suggestion that he was making fun of someone with a mental illness (depression) was a bit much because he didn't mention depression.  Clearly, not everyone who is concerned about excess skin is not indicating that they are depressed. But to each his own.  He's a big boy, and I'm good.

Apologies then... but it really sounded like you were saying that my concern about being able to have the plastic surgery  later was not a valid one, and to me, it is very real.

I agree that the OP had nothing to do with depression, and I agree that concern about excess skin does not equal depression.  But I do see where, for some, it could be a legitimate concern.

I don't recall saying anything about depression. Being depressed is one thing, but actual depression is a whole 'nother monster. I didn't think the post had anything to do with mental illness, more making fun of people who are depressed/have issues with/freaking out about skin... not people who have chronic and severe depression due to mental illness.