Why-Loose Skin....???

Continue what? Telling you not to be so aggressive because I didn't imply what you said I did? Saying "we have a problem" and in the manner you did isn't discussing anything like an adult. I'm the one who said it's silly.

You don't have to give me slack. I'm a big girl.

Oh trust me... you are not keeping me here.  I stay partly because of the great information I gleam from the other threads and from people who don't think of me as a burden, as you apparently do, and partly because I want to be able to give back and support people who are where I was when I first came here.

I don't recall ever saying that anyone "has to cater to my needs..." you don't even know me.  This is only the third time that you have ever even acknowledged my presence on this forum in the three months that I have been here, and yet you don't see me whining about it.   

No one here owes me anything, nor do they owe anyone else anything.  But what is the purpose of a forum like this one if it's not to have a place to get support, no matter what stage of the process one is in?

I didn't mean to come across as if I felt entitled somehow just because I'm still a newbie, just that the forum is not serving any valuable purpose if people don't feel comfortable coming here.   

 
You are so correct !

frisco

 
But the thing is, he wasn't poking fun at anyone specifically.

How many times can you read and answer the same questions before you have to liven things up a bit?  I guess I just think you will find life here easier if you don't take things personally.  He didn't write this thread to you, he wasn't directing it at anyone specifically.  It was a general thread and we all do it and we are all going to continue to do it.  It's the nature of boards.

You just had surgery a few days ago, we have been posting here for years and years.  I've been here since '06.  Do you know how many thousands of times I have answered the same questions?  I do it because it is the right thing to do.   It IS common sense that some people are going to have excess skin, there are a gazillion posts on the same topic, there is an entire section of OH devoted to plastics, and well... that's just how it is.  It is not realistic to think that we can abuse our bodies to the point of obesity with no disfigurement.  This thread was totally necessary to lighten things up a bit.

What do you say to someone who comes here and claims they are 5 days post op and supposed to be on clear liquids but they just ate ham but it's okay 'cuz I chew real good!'?  Seriously, just how sweet and nicey nice must we be?  That is sheer stupidity.  I had a guy a couple of months ago that was angry because at a week post op he tried to eat an entire Subway sandwich and couldn't?  How gentle should I have been?  (real life person, not on line)  I literally spent hours going over sleeves, pre op diet, post op diet, risks, complications, etc., and this guy tries to cram an entire sub sandwich in his sleeve.  This man is not a stupid man, he's a successful business person but what he did was stupid.

There is a time for gentle, there is a time for tough, and there is a time for a bit of fun.  If you are going to be upset each time someone posts something that you don't like, you are going to be upset a lot!  Heck, you should just block me here and now to prevent feeling upset because I'm about as blunt and bold as they come.  People come here, they need to know a LOT of info, they wanted surgery yesterday, and most newbies don't want you to flower it up, they just want the darn facts, they want them all, and they want them now.  Most vets I know will pretty well tell you how it is.

There just isn't anything wrong with this thread, not even a little.

You are entitled to your opinion, and I am entitled to mine.  That's all.

& I agree with the getting it cut the F** off.. I told my husband that IF the skin started to bother me as much as it did way back when that I for my own damn metal health would seek plastics even if I needed loans to do it. I am chicken about the pain. Right now, we don't have the finances (plus I personally want to live with it for at least a year).. but I WILL NOT live inside my skin sack IF it eats at me again. It was not pleasant. 

Yeah. I think the pain will be awful- probably the worse ever, and I have a very high pain tolerance. But it still gotta go- cutting it the f*** off!  I'm not doing these squats, crunches, and push ups for nothing!!!!

 I sadly cannot take any good pain meds, intolerant to narcotics of any kind I've tried so far. Ugh.

Well Jo i suggest you keep trying because that pain, all those nerve endings, especially for a tummy tuck, but the worst pain is the muscle repair pain.  you have to find something.  i have a susceptibility to pain meds, and they feel horrible and i build up a tolerance pretty quickly but while they are doing that I'm tearing my skin off with itching but i dealt with it adding some benadryl because i tried it without.  delaudid worked for a minute, then torodol, then...well you get the idea, really needed the help.  just the memory of trying to straighten up gives me the heebie jeebies still.  keep searching.