I'm NOT Telling!!!

i dont know..im to the point where if i dont say it, i feel like a liar, and being open about it will reduce the stigma of it in the future, and it can help others.

so i let people judge me for having the surgery, and maybe the next time they hear about someone who has had it they will judge a little less...

and in the end...my a$$ is #1 healthy, happy, and hot and i let everyone drown in their own envy who isnt happy for me.

I have only told my hubby ,mom and  boss&coworker. Iam to scared to fail and everyone laugh at me cuz of all the money I payed for the wls.

 I tell everyone from the waitress bringing me the to go box looking at my plate wondering why I only ate 1/4th of whats on my plate to the cashier at the big and tall shop as I tell them this will be the last time I visit this shop .. too much work trying to hide it.  Whats the point?  I have nothing to hide and could care less who knows .. if they are going to talk at least they could know the truth.  

I have gotten NOTHING but good positive remarks and congrats.  Only 1 person has ever said anything negative and that is discussed in my youtube video for my 20 week update.

To each their own but its just as much work hiding it (if not more actually) then just letting people know.  I'm not living the rest of my life wrapped around a lie by pretending I did this without the help of surgery.

I kept it quiet and only told parental units and friend. Then 3 days post op my Mother says to me " what do I tell Debbie(my aunt"). At that point I decided it was unfair of me to make others lie for me.  I came out and told everyone verbally and by FB.  I said that I had done the surgery, was in a good place and working very hard to my goal and that any positive support would be welcomed, if anyone wanted to be negative to keep it to themselves as I didn't need them sabotaging my efforts. 
I have been fortunate that I have gotten no negative feedback from my family and friends. But it was better for me to be open and truthful.
Everybody has different cir****tances and if you think you need to keep it a secret then do what you need to do. Just realize the burden you put on others by making them lie to family and friends.

thanks everyone

I really am trying to keep it to myself because I am taking vacation during surgery time. Rather than using short term leave & such.
I prefer for 'some' at work NOT to know.

I am very confident in my decision but prefer NOT to discuss it at every given second during lunch & breaks.

As for friends, I'm not telling until I see some success.
Family, I have my son only & he knows.

It's more about working on my weight loss more than explaining & answering questions.

From one VSG'er to another, if you go back to work before you can eat, just be prepared for the comments unless you can eat in private.

It's really tough to eat without comments the first 6-12 weeks in my opinion. I didn't announce it to strangers at restaurants, I already knew how to combat those comments, but when out with friends, I had to say something.

I find it quite freeing to talk about it openingly.  It gives me a feeling of "Hey I'm fat and I am doing something about it" inner strength.  Lots of people are interested in the details and I find most of my coworkers are excited and happy for me. The surgery is a really important part of my life now and I want to be open about it.  I feel like I hid away enough when I was the big girl in the room.  But in the end, you need to do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

This has been an ongoing topic on this forum... It's none anyone's business... why do ppl need to know if u have wls...what are they getting out of knowing part of ur medical history??? Nothing.. I dontworry bout gossip... I'm not in high school anymore...I have not returned to work yet and when I do I may be bombarded w/ ?'s not sure... I'm new to my office but not new to the place I work at.... I keep a low profile anyways... And I don't blab my business...it's never a good idea to be too open it can backfire on you...so girl keep the way u have it tell ppl who u deeply feel need to know and screw everyone else....

AMEN!!    my husband and my surgeon know...  that is quite enough for me

My opinion only: Unless you were a closet eater, and only nibbled in front of family & friends, and you plan to never eat with them for at least the first year or more- you won't fool anyone. People that know you WILL notice, notice the eating, the burps or hiccups (early out for most of us) the fast loss.. and as Tiff said, some may jump to a very different conclusion. I'm not saying go running around and announce it, but consider (if asked) telling the real truth, not omitting the one big factor that makes d&e a real DOABLE thing for us. Most folks at least where I live are fairly aware, and will feel very negative towards you if you try to insist you are doing it by d&e alone and are eventually figured out. Just my opinion. My sister is now getting the VSG, after having a friend and myself go through it.. we can and do change people's lives if we are willing to be open.

Here's my response I posted on one of these questions just after my surgery:

It is a totally personal decision to tell or not to..It is your call, and everyone is different in that regard. There is no right or wrong answer to this question.. only your own comfort level, and the maturity level of those close to you should determine how you proceed.

In the end, I told all my friends beforehand. I was originally thinking I wouldn't until they asked.. then I thought about the cir****tances under which I may be asked.. at a house party?? Not the best time to break somewhat heavy news! So I decided to visit each set of friends separately so I could talk with them one on one. Much to my surprise, all were very supportive and several thanked me for being upfront and not keeping it a secret! It meant something that I trusted them with this information.. that not only made their reactions more positive, but gave me a strong sense of support. I do not work currently, so only friends got this news. I was afraid of negative reactions from a few.. and got none! Guess that show me not to assume the worst!