Don't fret about the scale - yeah right
Well, I think it is good advice for us to not be totally concerned with the scale, I want to say something about that.
Yes, I have been stuck at the same post op weight since I first weighed myself after surgery (within a couple of pounds). Can I handle that? Yeah, I can. But having previously thought people were a little silly with their "Stalled" posts, I get it now. You just did something extremely major, life changing, and mind blowing to your body. How can we not expect to want to see some results from this.
I get the advice, I really really do, but I think, especially right after surgery, this is very valid and not unreasonable for people to be a little freaked out.
Thoughts that go through my mind (and I bet others): Could I be that one person who doesn't lose weight after WLS? Is something wrong? Am I eating or doing something wrong? (I am not btw).
Anyway, just wanted to vent and to say I previously wouldn't have posted anything about this because I felt like in some way it's a pity party. But ya know what? These are valid feelings about not losing weight and although logically I get that the weight will eventually come off, it doesn't feel good that it's not, especially when you have done something major and the recovery was terrible.
Yes, I have been stuck at the same post op weight since I first weighed myself after surgery (within a couple of pounds). Can I handle that? Yeah, I can. But having previously thought people were a little silly with their "Stalled" posts, I get it now. You just did something extremely major, life changing, and mind blowing to your body. How can we not expect to want to see some results from this.
I get the advice, I really really do, but I think, especially right after surgery, this is very valid and not unreasonable for people to be a little freaked out.
Thoughts that go through my mind (and I bet others): Could I be that one person who doesn't lose weight after WLS? Is something wrong? Am I eating or doing something wrong? (I am not btw).
Anyway, just wanted to vent and to say I previously wouldn't have posted anything about this because I felt like in some way it's a pity party. But ya know what? These are valid feelings about not losing weight and although logically I get that the weight will eventually come off, it doesn't feel good that it's not, especially when you have done something major and the recovery was terrible.
HW:280 SW: 259 CW: 181.2
Normal feelings.Different people have different expectations.different personality types,visual people need visual confirmation ect ect.
Very valid.
But,and I would take a 200g loss per day over a 10 pound in 5 days with a 2 week stall to follow,there is absolutely nothing one can do about the way you lose after this surgery.I am currently learning this the hard way.Does that change how I feel?Unfortunately not even a little bit.
Just try to get through each day to the best of your ability and the weight will come off.(I was also up 10 pounds after surgery but 2 weeks post op the weight started dropping off) Good luck and its ok to be real about your feelings.Some of us really do understand and feel for you.
Very valid.
But,and I would take a 200g loss per day over a 10 pound in 5 days with a 2 week stall to follow,there is absolutely nothing one can do about the way you lose after this surgery.I am currently learning this the hard way.Does that change how I feel?Unfortunately not even a little bit.
Just try to get through each day to the best of your ability and the weight will come off.(I was also up 10 pounds after surgery but 2 weeks post op the weight started dropping off) Good luck and its ok to be real about your feelings.Some of us really do understand and feel for you.
Stalls suck.
I weigh 2 times a day, because I know myself and I would be even more pissed off if I waited a week only to see the same weight on the scale, or God forbid, a higher weight. I need the constant checks and balances of weighing myself regularly.
The reason why people farther out tell you not to focus on the scale as much is because many of us have very slow weight loss while others have stall after stall. I know very few (but, there are some) who have the weight just fall off. The people that have easy and fast weight loss tend to also be the people that come back here after a year or two and "just can't understand why they gained 20lbs pounds back." (Just what I have observed.)
IMO, while being a slow loser is maddening and sometimes a serious brain **** I prefer it because I have been forced to take a very non-emotional approach to this journey (don't get me wrong, emotions come into to play all the time.) But, when I'm frustrated that I've seen the same weight week after week, I have to make a choice. I either stay dedicated to reaching my goal, or I don't.
I think that the slow losers and the constant stallers have a somewhat easier time when they finally get to maintenance because we've basically been doing all along what the maintenance people do. At least that's what a few of the vets have told me when I get pissed off and decide to vent.
Chill out. You got this.
I weigh 2 times a day, because I know myself and I would be even more pissed off if I waited a week only to see the same weight on the scale, or God forbid, a higher weight. I need the constant checks and balances of weighing myself regularly.
The reason why people farther out tell you not to focus on the scale as much is because many of us have very slow weight loss while others have stall after stall. I know very few (but, there are some) who have the weight just fall off. The people that have easy and fast weight loss tend to also be the people that come back here after a year or two and "just can't understand why they gained 20lbs pounds back." (Just what I have observed.)
IMO, while being a slow loser is maddening and sometimes a serious brain **** I prefer it because I have been forced to take a very non-emotional approach to this journey (don't get me wrong, emotions come into to play all the time.) But, when I'm frustrated that I've seen the same weight week after week, I have to make a choice. I either stay dedicated to reaching my goal, or I don't.
I think that the slow losers and the constant stallers have a somewhat easier time when they finally get to maintenance because we've basically been doing all along what the maintenance people do. At least that's what a few of the vets have told me when I get pissed off and decide to vent.
Chill out. You got this.
VSG 10/18/11 If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton
Totally valid! All feelings are!
I doubted my ability to lose it continually. Early out the first weeks, it was a constant threat over my head bordering on paranoia. I lost, then started the lose only 1 week a month routine.. I chilled and realized I couldn't control my body-reaction, I could only control what I put in on the front-end. That eased some of the freaky-ness, but still.. I think I internally doubted all the way to the end.. Now I worry about holding on to what I achieved.
You know you are doing the right stuff, just keep doing it. The logging/measuring was my saving grace.. it helped keep me sane when the doubts flooded me. I could look at it and console myself that I was doing wonderful with what I could control, and try to convince myself to not worry over the stuff I had no control over.. It helped.
I doubted my ability to lose it continually. Early out the first weeks, it was a constant threat over my head bordering on paranoia. I lost, then started the lose only 1 week a month routine.. I chilled and realized I couldn't control my body-reaction, I could only control what I put in on the front-end. That eased some of the freaky-ness, but still.. I think I internally doubted all the way to the end.. Now I worry about holding on to what I achieved.
You know you are doing the right stuff, just keep doing it. The logging/measuring was my saving grace.. it helped keep me sane when the doubts flooded me. I could look at it and console myself that I was doing wonderful with what I could control, and try to convince myself to not worry over the stuff I had no control over.. It helped.
Thank you all for your encouragement. I think I was feeling silly or pathetic for posting about the stall because I have seen it posted so many times (not that it wasn't valid). But I would think, you have seen that stalls happen - just deal. Well, it's definitely different when it happens to you and basically I was losing over a pound a day on my preop diet, so that is where a lot of the frustration comes in.
Anyway, I know I will lose weight soon.
Anyway, I know I will lose weight soon.
HW:280 SW: 259 CW: 181.2
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