How your age affects the amount of saggy skin?
I am still in the researching stage and I was wondering how a person's age would affect how drastic your skin sags? I am 32 and although I know I don't look good right now, at least I'm used to how I look and am comfortable with my husband (who has only known me at this size). I'm worried I will be too embarrased with a flabby tummy and droopy boobs! I know I can hide it with clothes in public, but what about nakid? I know it's not about the looks and only about the health benefits, and people keep reassuring me that I'm still young enough and that my skin still has enough elasticity. But does age really make a difference? I'm just wondering people's ages and how easily some of the skin (I know there will be SOME sagging, no matter what) bounced back.
I can understand how you feel and this is a huge concern of mine also. However to be healthy and live longer for my kids is greater than any fear I have about my body. Also my hubby says he loves me anyway I look. How is you husband supporting you in all this? Age and length of time being overweight definitely makes a difference. I just had surgery last month so I haven't noticed any difference other than knowing my tummy and possibly my arms and upper thighs are going to sag. There are plastic surgeries that you can do if you feel that uncomfortable. My reasons for doing this were clearly for health reasons...
Pretty sure your husband will be so proud of you and will think your new body is hot!!
As far as age playing a factor, think about it. Has that skin been stretched 10 years or 40 years? Elasticity diminishes in our skin as we age as well. Genetics and pure luck also play a role in how you may look as well as previous pregnancies.
It is what it is, there is not much short of surgery to get rid of it but it's a hell of a lot better looking than fat filled skin that may kill ya, right??
As far as age playing a factor, think about it. Has that skin been stretched 10 years or 40 years? Elasticity diminishes in our skin as we age as well. Genetics and pure luck also play a role in how you may look as well as previous pregnancies.
It is what it is, there is not much short of surgery to get rid of it but it's a hell of a lot better looking than fat filled skin that may kill ya, right??
VSG on 6/22/11
I totally agree that I am doing this for health reasons, and that NOTHING about being my weight now is better than being healthy. My husband is totally on board with me getting the surgery. When I asked him how he'd feel about me with boobs that I can tie in a knot (lol), he said the right thing, with, "I didn't marry you for your boobs, no matter how much I like them. I married you for you, and I want you around as long as possible and healthy".
I have given birth 3 times and I know that anywhere I have stretch marks, I will sag. I know my husband will love me no matter what and will be so proud of my successes, but I just want to feel good about myself in bed.
Even though I'm not thin, I AM proud of a couple of my curves and would hate to lose my chest (which is the only thing good about having extra fat). Maybe I have been just "grasping at straws" to find SOMETHING to be proud of, and I'll find many more things to be proud of once I'm thin. I just thought of that!!!
Some people's skin sort of puckers. My Sleeve friend is over 50 and her stomach looks like a mouth that has eaten something sour. She really doesn't have any sagging skin.
I am a light weight, and the only thing really, really saggy on me is my girls. But, it's nothing a good bra can't handle. Give me another 25 lbs though, and my tummy will be saggy.
Take a good look at yourself. Whatever is sagging now will probably be sagging when you get to goal.
IMO, you are worried about the wrong thing.
I am a light weight, and the only thing really, really saggy on me is my girls. But, it's nothing a good bra can't handle. Give me another 25 lbs though, and my tummy will be saggy.
Take a good look at yourself. Whatever is sagging now will probably be sagging when you get to goal.
IMO, you are worried about the wrong thing.
VSG 10/18/11 If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton
Slimpickins, Thanks so much for the info. I appreciate you being so honest for my benefit. I am not really worried about the sagging as more like curious and hopeful it won't be as bad as I think. I'm much more worried about a lot of other things, this is just one of probably many questioning posts. I just want as much info as possible before I do this!! Thanks again SO MUCH for the info!!!
don't know how much you have to lose and how long you've been obese. Those two things will influence your potential skin issues.
That said, I'm 48, have lost 98 pounds and have a little saggy skin. It's not much, but it does bug me. I still love the loose, saggy extra skin me far more than I ever loved my bloated, fat self.
Loose, saggy skin certainly wasn't on my list of worries and I'm just as vain as the next person.
Frankly, I dont understand the whole fear of loose and saggy skin. Honestly, if that is such a concern you really have two options: One, pay for skin removal once you have lost all your weight or two, just stay fat - no saggy skin that way.
Honestly the time to think about having loose skin is BEFORE we gain weight, but none of us do. Oh well, ...
My advice, don't let the notion of having loose, saggy skin influence your decision to lose weight or have WLS.
That said, I'm 48, have lost 98 pounds and have a little saggy skin. It's not much, but it does bug me. I still love the loose, saggy extra skin me far more than I ever loved my bloated, fat self.
Loose, saggy skin certainly wasn't on my list of worries and I'm just as vain as the next person.
Frankly, I dont understand the whole fear of loose and saggy skin. Honestly, if that is such a concern you really have two options: One, pay for skin removal once you have lost all your weight or two, just stay fat - no saggy skin that way.
Honestly the time to think about having loose skin is BEFORE we gain weight, but none of us do. Oh well, ...
My advice, don't let the notion of having loose, saggy skin influence your decision to lose weight or have WLS.
I think the amount of skin you end up with depends on how large you are now, how many pregnancies you've had, and perhaps most importantly, genetics. Some people have very elastic skin and some don't--it isn't possible to change it one way or the other.
I have some sag, particularly on my stomach, but most of it is stretched out skin from past pregnancies and not fat. My legs disgust me because I have/had big thighs and they look a bit deflated now, but it's nothing that plastics can't fix.
My hubbie can't keep his hands off of me. He loved me when I was fat and actually thought the surgery was unnecessary. But he loves my new body and honestly, I don't think he even notices the imperfections that I focus on. And my body is in no way perfect. Men are visual creatures, but I have found that the rose-colored glasses my husband seems to wear blinds him to all of the awful things I see when I look at myself.
I have some sag, particularly on my stomach, but most of it is stretched out skin from past pregnancies and not fat. My legs disgust me because I have/had big thighs and they look a bit deflated now, but it's nothing that plastics can't fix.
My hubbie can't keep his hands off of me. He loved me when I was fat and actually thought the surgery was unnecessary. But he loves my new body and honestly, I don't think he even notices the imperfections that I focus on. And my body is in no way perfect. Men are visual creatures, but I have found that the rose-colored glasses my husband seems to wear blinds him to all of the awful things I see when I look at myself.
If you have a pannus (droopy apron of skin hanging in front of your stomach) I don't think that will ever go away without surgery. Likewise if you have skin drooping off of your upper arms (batwings), I don't think that snaps back if it's been that stretched. If you just have big arms with no drooping skin though, or no apron across your front, then I think you'd have a good chance. I lost 100 pounds when I was 28 (pre pregnancies) and I looked fine. Then I regained it and went through 2 pregnancies, and now I know it's definitely never going to look alright without surgery (I'm 35 now).
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