husband finally said his feelings... long-ish
My husband doesn't talk about it much. He listens but doesn't comment. I feel like he doesn't want me to talk about it 24/7 and I try not to. We have a terrible sense of humor and he told me he doesn't care as long as I don't "turn into a ****" 
I did tell him that when it's close we will sit down and talk about what ifs. I am sure more of his real feelings will come out during that discussion.
Good luck!
I did tell him that when it's close we will sit down and talk about what ifs. I am sure more of his real feelings will come out during that discussion.
Good luck!
it's hard not to talk about it 24/7 cause it's such a huge thing, and you're researching and thinking so much about it. i was so thankful to find OH.com because it took the pressure off talking to much about it. Everythings in the same boat here.
I'm sure your husband will be happy if you turn into his ****!
I'm sure your husband will be happy if you turn into his ****!
Yes you are an emotional mess and entitled to be! This is a big decision, a life style change, and kind of the fear of the unknown.
All that said, let me tell you, my husband was just like yours. Then we had the heart to heart teh saturday prior to surgery. ANd he admitted he was behind me as always, but did not approve of my choice. He was afraid of me going under the knife, complications (I was having the band removed and being sleeved) and just worried.
So we talked about it, I showed him pics of my mentor and how she looked just 8 short months after surgery and he was amazed. He did question, is it really going to work? And I told him it would (even though I had the very same thought) After every diet I had tried, getting the lap band and always failing at maintaining weight loss it's hard to not be a doubting Thomas so to speak.
But it has been almost a year for me now, and I can tell you that I have NEVER looked back! My surgery was so successful, but I made it and wanted it to work. I followed every order to the "T". I lost well, I walked and exercised and I reached my goal! I just can't believe it sometimes.
There are times now that I don't even sort of remember being obese because I have a whole new life. In fact, I never thought I would do this, but I just had a breast aumentation and tummy tuck done 1 week ago.
My life in 1 year is so different. So please know you are doing the right thing, you have made a good choice and you will be as successful as you want to be! Do what you should and the weight has no choice but to come off!
Good luck to you hun, please keep us informed. If you need any help or have questions, please ask. Hugs to you on your special day!
All that said, let me tell you, my husband was just like yours. Then we had the heart to heart teh saturday prior to surgery. ANd he admitted he was behind me as always, but did not approve of my choice. He was afraid of me going under the knife, complications (I was having the band removed and being sleeved) and just worried.
So we talked about it, I showed him pics of my mentor and how she looked just 8 short months after surgery and he was amazed. He did question, is it really going to work? And I told him it would (even though I had the very same thought) After every diet I had tried, getting the lap band and always failing at maintaining weight loss it's hard to not be a doubting Thomas so to speak.
But it has been almost a year for me now, and I can tell you that I have NEVER looked back! My surgery was so successful, but I made it and wanted it to work. I followed every order to the "T". I lost well, I walked and exercised and I reached my goal! I just can't believe it sometimes.
There are times now that I don't even sort of remember being obese because I have a whole new life. In fact, I never thought I would do this, but I just had a breast aumentation and tummy tuck done 1 week ago.
My life in 1 year is so different. So please know you are doing the right thing, you have made a good choice and you will be as successful as you want to be! Do what you should and the weight has no choice but to come off!
Good luck to you hun, please keep us informed. If you need any help or have questions, please ask. Hugs to you on your special day!
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