Surgery tomorrow and SCARED

I am actually think about backing out. Is this normal?  My nerves are shot. I'm scared I will be the one to have issues. I am 39 255lbs and no health issues so far.  I'm sure they are coming if I don't do something. I keep thinking maybe just maybe I can do this on my own. I need advice plz

Don't be! You will be just fine.. When you look back on this it will feel like a breeze.

I'm 12 days post and feel wonderful!!
Good luck!
Steve

This is normal!  Remember why you want to have this done.  You researched your surgeon, you have been comfortable with them up until now.  You need to trust they know what they are doing.  Congratulations on making this decision and tomorrow we will move over and make room for you on the losers bench!

those are normal feelings. I'm going back for a revision - so I didn't have a lot of time to mentally prepare (about a month) so I had a little anxiety. For me, at least I was almost fully physically healed in a week (maybe not totally inside, but I didn't have any pain and could sleep on my stomach). For *me* at least, I knew that this was what I wanted to do so I was excited to get the surgery part over with and move forward.  

 

Good luck and I keep wanting to say "you'll be fine", which of course I guarantee but I wish you well!

It is normal to feel scared or uncertain.  I was more scared of the anesthesia than I was of the surgery (it was my first surgery other than wisdom teeth removal decades earlier).  As scared as I was even up to the night before surgery, from the moment I got up the morning of surgery I was cool as a cucumber, astonishingly.  Hopefully you will have that peace of mind as well if you decide to have the surgery done.

No one can answer for you whether you can lose your excess weight without surgery or if you can maintain such a weight loss.  I think most, if not all, people on this forum will tell you that they couldn't lose it or maintain it any other way, FWIW.

 

You'll do great because you are young and you have no complications! I was in the same boat, only I'm 52. I put my surgery off for an extra two months until just before Christmas, thinking if I needed extra time to heal. DUMB me! I did great and I'm down 61 pounds in four months and I didn't need the extra time. My only regret is not having it 2 months earlier. Being nervous is normal. This is the best thing you could do for your future health! GOOD LUCK!!!

I am a cash pay so I am sure some anxiety comes from spending a lot of money and it not working or me being sick. Do any of you miss food or have any regrets?  My biggest fear is regret!!

Do what you feel is best, but I'll tell you, if anyone told me I'd feel this good just 3 days post-op I would've thought they were mad.  I feel great.  

Don't feed your fear and worry.  You will be OK.  :-)

My only regret is, I didn't do it 2 months earlier. I would have most likely been down another 20 pounds by now and 20 pounds closer to my goal weight of 140.

Hi Jane

Fears, concerns, questions, all those, are part of this process for most people.  If this is your first surgery, it's doubly understandable.  I'm a veteran of many, many surgeries, so when I had my sleeve done, I didn't give it a thought.  They have so many safe-guards these days -- try to have trust in the surgeon and his staff -- they will take good care of you.

I get the concept of "maybe just maybe I can do this on my own" -- but how has that worked for you so far?  We don't go for consults and make these decisions to remove a goodly part of an organ if we were doing it on our own.  Some of us just need more tools in our arsenal -- the sleeve is a fantastic tool.

You're very lucky that you aren't dealing with any comorbidities at this point in your life.  Staying obese will only contribute to your likelihood of developing them, though.  I wish I could hold your hand and stay with you while you go through this -- I'd be telling you how wonderful life is when you lose a considerable amount of weight and not feel hungry and have abundant energy and zest for life.  I'm 65 years old -- I do more active things now than in the past 20-25 years.  I had the surgery because of my comorbs and the weight loss was a super bonus!  My comorbs are now stable or in remission -- it's WORTH IT!

This surgery is the best thing I've ever done for myself -- and I think you'll find that most folks who went through with it will tell you the same thing.

If you have questions and want to PM me, I'll be happy to try to help you.

For now......good luck -- I wish you the very best..................

Ree