What support really is and what being supporive isn't

Table for four?

OK, I am waiting for this one....   It better be good.

You never disappoint. I got what I came for and expected.   Now there is the problem of the post at the top of the page that is about eating KFC mashed potatoes after two weeks..... I wonder what you will say on that one.  Never mind, I don't want to cause an accident.  

Oh Elina.... way past that.... seems like some kind of normal by now....

frisco

You people really crack me up, I hope you don't stop posting, I look forward to reading your posts and learning all I can. I live about an hour away from the nearest support group so this is where I come for info ( other than my dr), and some of the information is logical, so I can understand your frustration. I read some people's posts and wonder what they are thinking. Anyway all I was saying is dont let a few bad apples ruin the rest of the barrel, you all are appreciated and you do make a difference, more then you know. Please stay vets!

Lisa

On May 5, 2013 at 4:15 PM Pacific Time, frisco wrote:

 

But you really want to know the sad part........ many many times daily, I see questions that go unanswered....or answered not so well..... and I know for a fact certain vets have really great answers to those same questions...... sad .... and who's fault would that be???

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I haven't been here long and I already miss the good ol' days.

Well said Ruggie...oooh, smelling roses now...But seriously, here's my very recent experience to share.  I went over to VST and posted there for the first time in 3 years.  Been a member since 2010 (used to lurk there) but didn't find the site to be set up to my liking and much slower to load, so I hung out here at OH.  Guess what?  I was blasted over there with rude comments and confrontational people.  I always felt that the people here truly wanted and needed support and as an encourager, I was willing to provide that.  I had gained so much valuable information that I wanted to pay it forward.  What hit me (up the side of the head, no less) when I read your post is that this is not an OH thing, it's an internet thing.  People from all walks of life are here and just like the "public", some will listen/learn and some will argue until the cows come home.  I've been wondering lately if it's time to just step away so I have backed off considerably as others have.  I believe in this surgery.  I believe in the basic premise of OH and truly want to help those that ask for help, but I've often wondered if my being here actually makes a difference in anyones life or journey. I used to think it did, but lately I'm not so sure.

Sometimes I tell myself that "if you help just one person, then it's worth it".  But is it?  Really?  ...at the expense of yourself?

Just my two cents...

Deb

I definitely get what you're saying... I have my days.

I read this forum everyday and I can honestly say I rarely see people being unsupportive, I see lots of whiners and well why can't I's, but very few cases of actual attacking. I've always looked at these forums as a place to exchange information rather than for support, that needs to come from people who are close to you not strangers on an internet forum. All we can do is like Ruggie said share our information and hope it helps others. We aren't here to give permission to eat something or not to, we can share what we did and what worked or didn't for us but we aren't your mommy you are all adults who can make your own choices, just be prepared to be told it was a bad choice if it was. If you want to be pampered or coddled the internet probably isn't for you.