When is enough is enough...when other VSGrs obsession=mental illness

 

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Carmelita,

perhaps I am in the dark and way off base.. But this looks to be a few things to me...

1. Very passive aggressive

2. An attempt to slander someone's name

3. Confusing as heck.. You refer to calling someone a pathological liar and being blocked, then to fearing having your head chopped off by someone you don't know from adam...if you should happen to do the noble thing and confront this stranger about the mental illness or eating disorder, and you refer to someone needing attention.....but you don't know them....

 If you don't know them from adam, how do you know they are mentally ill and have an eating disorder?

To me... It looks as if you are trying to slander the very same person who blocked you, and this is a revenge post and not at all any concern on your part for anyone.

For the record, those of you throwing around the terms cyber bullies, and carb police etc etc... Look in the mirror...

 

If you don't know them, you may not know what you are talking about... Leave the confronting for a friend or family member who does know them and knows if that shoe fits. I have not seen any posting on here that leads me to believe anyone on here regularly has an eating disorder.

If you are just trying to slander the person I think you are trying to slander... Because you don't like her or her options...who's the bully here? If it is that person of whom you speak, the one who blocked you... I DO know her personally, I have a masters degree  in psych, and personal experience with eating disorders, and you are way off base.

It's a shame when people are so threatened by differing opinions that they set out to discredit others.

If there is a real person who needs help, they don't likely need it from you if you don't know them...calling them out as you refer to it wl not be of help. But I think this is a ruse designed to discredit, and I have lost all respect. I have often been able to see past the tangential, weirdly spelled posts to the intelligent meat beneath the surface....you have often had much to offer. This post is beneath you. In the case of real concern, a private message, where the recipient could've " chopped your head off" privately, would havbeen warranted. You did not need to take a poll...other than to poke at someone and stir the pot, and try to discredit.

OH... I am commenting strictly on the post here, not the op.....this POST is lacking in sincerity in my opinion

 

Christina

Thank you soooo much chris  you have brought such depth and clarity are spot on,  on point, have broken the code all in one how do you call it....confusing passive aggressive lacking intelligent meat response.

As you can see I am not a masters in psychology, I do not have any expertise nor experience with eating disorders like you do ...but this post is not about you

.n..I may be passive aggressive tangential weird speller with no crediblitlity  who lacks judgement, class and sincerity and who has lost all respect with you ......wait who ARE you again?   

I  AM sorry you feel this post is motivated by anything other than true concern for someone here. .......but this post is NOT about ME. .I think I pointed that out already.  Nor is it about YOU  ...

help me or not.

You could of easily  PM'd me ....if your motivation  this public reply wasnt  ...what did you call it ..PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE ...why haven't you pm'd me. Your educated ,your the kind of VSGr that could HELP THIS PERSON....your too busy publically DISSECTING ,,,me!! attackin ME...Im nobody! 

for a professional , masters in psychology...such as yourself....your REPLY is clearly lacking in JUDGEMENT, CLASS and SINCERITY!  You my dear, have lost all credibility WITH ME!!

 no wonder people.....who ask for help but most importantly NEED help ...can't get it....cuz U R much too busy 

                                           

I applaud wanting to really help, as I've seen you most often try to do. I'm not saying you shouldn't help other than if truly a stranger,  I doubt your help with be received . Surely other people who know the individual will see it and step in. I'm sorry for coming across as offensive, it was late at night and perhaps I should have pm Ed  you BUT

Even your very title seems to be copying and mocking a post made a week ago by the person who blocked you. If you are going to make this a public lynching of another persons character, and I sincerely believe that is what this initial post truly is, I'm going ti publicly denounce it as such!

Feel free to block me! 

Obviously OH found it offensive too!

I am NOT passive aggressive, I am honest and direct and call them as I see them! I'm not always right, just saying what this looks like to me and started with I may be off base but....

And who am I? Just a person trying to make my way here, and trying not to run over anyone else in the process. 

Christina

Even your very title seems to be copying and mocking a post made a week ago by the person who blocked you. If you are going to make this a public lynching of another persons character, and I sincerely believe that is what this initial post truly is, I'm going ti publicly denounce it as such!

WTF are you talking about Chris?  You make no sense to me. I know nothin about some post of a person that blocked me...who's was it ?  Could be anyone? I dunno..Was a time I had more people block me than friends!!  lmao I did!!  was I mentioned in that post to make you feel like Im using this post as "attention whoring out of revenge"?  ..if so...you are soo frikken off base you ain't even on the same page , same chapter, same book, same library, same county, country, continent or same planet! 

are ya reading many romance, crime or conspiracy novels lately  maybe a recent cat scan?, hormonal hell phase of VSG perhaps?  I didn't note how far out you are sorry.

 

Obviously OH found it offensive too!

the only thing OH found offensive is that I said I gave a **** about one of its members havin an eating disorder that leads to organ failure, and death.... and I had the balls to tell em....as I see other people/ "vets" here ignorin it only sayin "you look great" b.s. ... ya wanna a copy of the post they pulled?

lemme tell ya...someone who has ME blocked...ask me if I care! ok...since I asked.. I could care less if they had an eating disorder that leads to organ failure and death.  I wouldn't give it a second thought...I sure as **** wouldn't post about it...I would bury my head in the sand too!

 

I think we got our wires crossed somewhere Chris...this is NOT your fight ...I don't know why your attacking me. Someone has gotten to you maybe... told you lies...maybe same that has me blocked I mentioned in my post ...I don't know. 

Just try to remain neutral...its hard...the low-carbers, the health promoters...not alot divides us but numbers ,-) ...we're all here on the SAME VSG ticket...us vets want the best for ALL yous young uns...reapin the rewards/suffering the consequences....right here in the trenches too.

I just don't want to see this person I posted about , any VSGrs really ..get so sick fade away and fade out..and none of us say anything...other than great job, you look great....when they look like **** when they continue to obsessive about food in an unhealthy and unnatural way and based on their appearance...they aren't eating AT ALL ..but wasting away 

Im not blind, nor stoopid. 

I have no mouth and I must scream...

 

Thanks for posting this, Christina.  I think it was important and needed to be said.

Carol

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!

 

I find this post to be very confusing as I'm not sure what you are trying to accomplish? If this person has blocked you and you don't know them, why do you feel some sort of obligation to call them out? How do you know they are "clearly sick" and "anorexic" needing professional help? Are YOU a professional, capable of making that diagnosis? Most importantly, why do you care?

I don't know you or your history with anyone, so I can only speak to what I perceive from this post..... and this post comes off as a way to call someone names that you don't agree with under the disguise of "concern" that his or her advice is bad and that newbies shouldn't listen to them because he or she has a mental disease. That doesn't seem fair or ethical to me.

If the concern for newbies is genuine, then I would suggest letting that go. We are all adults here and people really need to take more personal responsibility in deciding what is best for them. If you have a different "plan" then shout it proudly from the rooftops and then let people decide if it best for them. We are big boys and girls, we can make decisions for ourselves and if someone can't...that is on them and not on the person you are referring to in you original post.

Like I said, I don't know you... but you asked for opinions and mine is that this post can easily be perceived as slander. You do have the right to disagree with someone's eating plan...but you do not have the right to say that someone has a disease and needs professional help.

Not sure why so many ppl feel like it is not our job to express concern over the real health problem of somebody within our sphere of influence

I think what might be making this sound inflammatory is the term "calling him/her out". But if we give people the benefit of the doubt, I'm sure it's an issue of wording; it's obvious you care about this individual enough to have this deep inner struggle, so shouldn't it be obvious to all of us that you would approach him or her in a compassionate way that would convey that care? 

I hope that when you do what your conscience is clearly telling you to do, it goes well. How many people have died from anorexia (or other "sensitive/personal" issues like domestic violence, drug abuse, etc...) because nobody thought it was their place to speak up?