Flip Flopping before VSG?? Did others do this?

Quick facts.....3.5 months into 6 month supervised program. I did my research and lots of it before I decided VSG was for me. Well I'm 3.5 month in and 2.5 months to go until I meet with the surgeon. On a weekly basis I start questioning myself asking if surgery is really for me or do I make another weight loss stab on my own?!?! Did others doubt themselves like this?

This past weekend we had our annual girls trip to Put In Bay and it was pretty out of control with the eating and drinking for everyone! I sat there thinking I won't be able to even have one drink next year while everyone else is. I think that  is what triggeres this weeks flil flop.

Today I have an appt with my doctors, NUT & psych and I will be bringing this up.

I would be lying if I said it gets easier with these types of trips right after the surgery.  I never really flip-flopped with my decision because I knew I was something that needed this tool.  During the 4th, seeing everyone eat bbq steak, chicken, and more burgers than I care to think about, I just kept thinking how stupid I was doing this to myself.  But, then I looked down, saw the new belt I had to buy cause my old one doesnt fit, I thought about how much easier it is to move around, and I realized that my stomach wasnt the one making me feel that way.  I really dont experience physical hunger at all.  It was my stupid brain working against me.  Thats why it is so important that those of us who do this, that we address the mental part of weight loss.  Whether through a therapist, support groups, whatever works for you, just make sure you have it figured out that the mental part is the hard part.  I have to say this to myself everyday, its a marathon not a sprint.  So, I know that at least once a day I wish I hadnt had this surgery.  But, at least 100 times a day I am so glad I did.  I wish you luck in your decision.  No matter what you choose, you will regret it at times.  But, if the marathon decision is that you want to do it, then there is your answer.  :)

I like the "marathon perspective"... makes big decisions like this seem less daunting. Thank you for your comment. It is helping me with my pre-surgery jitters.

I havent' really went back in forth personally because the pain in my back is constant and got increasingly worse with the more weight I put on. And like most that have had this surgery I have tried everthing under the sun and my emotions always won and I was back at square one. However I am only 29 and though I'm not a big drinker I like to have the occasional celebratory glass of wine or champagne so I am thankful for so many reasons that I'm having the VSG instead of RNY. Going through this liquid diet phase and being in on going therapy to address the real root of my emotional issues has restored my confidence in myself that I am capabable of limiting myself and using this tool to the best of my ability to become and remain pain free. So don't stress to much if the health benefits out way the social benefits of not having the surgery!!! I say go for it ...but doubts are normal. Best of luck to you!

Thanks all for your replies! I just wasn't sure if I was alone with flip flopping! I think todays doctors apt is perfect timing for me. I can discuss and also get their feedback with my flip flop struggle!

I can't say that I "flip-flopped" on my decision once I thoroughly researched the surgery and made the decision, but that's my personality. I definitely "mourned" each "last" time I ate a favorite food though - and I had lots and lots of food funerals during my pre-op supervised diet.

My advice would be to focus less on what you'll be potentially missing out on and more on what you'll be gaining. Think about your girls' trip next year and how you'll be smokin' hot in your new bod. ;-) I definitely don't enjoy the eating out part of socializing right now, but I still very much enjoy the social aspects. And as for the drinking, lots of people still drink after WLS. I have chosen not to right now - and don't plan on it until I get to my goal weight - because I don't want the extra calories, but I don't have any delusions that I'll never have a drink again.

Thanks ALS 731! I like your outlook on things........good prespective for me! I needed to hear that.

Great answer!

I literally cried when the doctor came to get me for the surgery. He asked if I was ready and I said no.. :( BUT I went through with it. I'm only 3 days from a month from being out and I'm 100% glad I did it. I'm a lot happier than I expected to be at this point. I spent the 7 months of supervised appointments beforehand trying to talk myself out of it, but in the end it's what needed to be done. I'd spent almost all of my life on a 'diet' that never worked.

I admit that I second guessed myself a lot.

After seeing my surgeon for the first time I decided to try my best to do a low carb/high protein diet and lose as much weight as I could before the surgery to be sure I was as healthy as could be FOR the surgery.  In 4 months I lost 85 pounds on my own.  Now granted, I had a *lot* to lose and probably the first 20 pounds was water weight, but that's pretty significant.

It made me wonder if I maybe could do this on my own.  At my last appointment (a week before surgery) with my primary care doctor she asked me if I thought I should just do it on my own since I'd done so well.  That really made me think.

In the end I knew that it took me a LOT of years and bad habits to get to the point that I found myself in before seeing the surgeon and that I needed to give myself every single tool I could have to do this big job I had in front of me.  I'm only 3 weeks out but I'm hoping and praying this sleeve will be a tool that will help me get to a healthier me.