sigh..crying

ok I know I shouldnt be lookin at others and comparing But I cant help it. I had my surgery in March 2006, and I dont think I'm doing "great" for weight loss. I mean i see these people losing 100+ or more and i'm here 6 months out way under...I thought it would be more. AM I doing something wrong? is this all i'm gonna lose? I feel like I failed. When did the weight stop for you all? sigh...I cant stop crying...b/c I feel like i failed. Kimberlina JAN 06 / 273 was my highest ( dr said I needed to lose 13 lbs b4 surgery) March 06/ 258 day of surgery Today 195. Kimberlina~

Kimberlina, You're doing great! If it's such a concern for you, it's obviously one of the most important things in your life. You're not a failure and you're beautiful. Everyone's progress is different. I lost all of my weight (175 lbs) in 10 months. And then it just STOPPED! And I was devestated. But I had a friend who just kept going at a slow steady pace and now she's a happy, healthy, beautiful size 8. Keep plugging away. You can't be a failure when it means so much! ;) Whitney

Kimberlina, Omigod, I so know what you mean! But you're gonna laugh because I'm looking at my friend who had this surgery like two years ago and is down into a size 6 and I'm still in 10s wondering if I'll ever get there. And then I look at my body and see how slim my face is, my arms, my legs and I think, "I've gotta stop focusing on the numbers and look at how I feel and move." So maybe I'm being picky but I really, really want to drop two sizes. In the same breath that I confess that desire, I try to look at how well I'm really using my tool. I am finally exercising regularly, check that off the list. I need to be eating more protein, and taking all my vitamins absolutely regularly. And I don't always. So we all have different areas to work on and different goals for ourselves. Just keep at it. You are the best measure of your success. You know if you are doing everything "right" or if there's areas you could work on. Don't get discouraged and stop! We all hit a wall at some point and that's when it's a good idea to change it up a bit. Step up the exercise, trim the diet, get more protein, nail down the vitamins, etc. Channel that frustration into some action and you'll feel more in control again. Just know that you are not alone in your feelings. I went through that several times over this past year. Take care, Kari