Dating?

Hey everyone, I've been looking around the site for about 2 months or so, since my 9/13/07 surgery. Anyways, I was wondering what's the best advice for dating after having surgery? I have girls that I wouldnt have a had a shot with this summer that are wanting to date now. I don't want to get into a relationship until I'm ready. I don't want to settle for what comes along. I haven't had a serious relationship in years, but I have dated off and on for the last 3-4 years. Any advice?

Hey... I'm in the same boat- although I'm almost two years out.  For now... I'd just concentrate on myself.  Get to know your body, work on your own emotional needs, etc.  This surgery really opens one's eyes to what is out there and what caused us to become obese in the first place.  Of course you can go on dates, he he... but something serious?  IDK.  I hopped into a serious relationship at 6 mos post op... went through sooooo much mental roller coastering and one year later- he couldn't deal anymore.  So I thin****il you feel out your feelings... casual is the way to go. But that's me! :) Good luck and welcome to the board!!!!

Yeah, I guess casual dating would definately be best for right now. I seem to get attached very easily, which I've got to work on. Thanks!

Meeee toooooo.  I have problems with over texting he he.  In my opinion... if nothing really works romantically... think of all the great friends you can make!!!!!

ok,  so my answer may offend some of the ladies here but i want to give a truthful answer from a dudes point of view. not that looks matter all that much, i mean u do need to have some attraction there, but the further out u get the more attention you will get, and the girls who give u attention will also get hotter. sometimes i am amazed at how hot some of the girls are who want to talk to me or also find me attractive. it is all so new to me, and i am loving it. well i hope my answer was not too offensive or piggish sounding, but this is an honest answer from a guys perspective meant to help out another dude.

Hah, well, that is sort of what I was expecting to happen too. It's not like I'm out looking for the hottest girl to start a relationship with. However, I don't want to settle on a girl that I may not have as mu*****ommon with just because she's there and she's even the least bit attractive. Attractiveness is definately key for a relationship. Unfortunately, I've noticed that the hotter the girl gets, the more they focus on material things, for the most part. Not all girls are like that, obviously. I guess I'm just going to casually date like Jaci suggested. Hopefully it will make everything easier in the long run.

Exactly... don't settle.  Looking back... that first relationship was just that- but in itself a learning experience, ya know?  Especially since it was my first one ever- I'd still be meandering around knowing nothing if I hadn't spent that year with him.  So experience it all- just don't get married :-D

Dude, it is the truth for both... before plastics... nada.  Now... whoa baby ha ha!

You have gotten some pretty decent answers. But just go casual for now. You didn't want to settle with your self being over weight why settle for someone. Its time to be about you. Be selfish for once. I have the same issue, I've got guys that wouldnt give me the time of day before now all want to go out with me. Its all good, but thing is I have more control and more decision on who I want to go out with. And yes J has a good point which is not piggish at all. You HAVE to have some sort of attraction to someone. Especially if you decide to get physical. Sorry someone can have a great personality but if you wont even do them with a bag over there head is it worth it? Sorry to be so mean peeps. But its true.  Well I'll throw this out there. I havent been physical with someone in a little over a year and a half. I know of someone for the last year that has blatently wanted me, I WONT. As bad as my drive is killing me I am not setting what I want aside just to satisfy that. If he was attractive... it would be no questions asked, LOL. And I wouldnt have had to write that. You will find yourself to start getting picker as things progress. I know I have.  But obviously just dont turn into a man ***** ladies dont like that. lol

Wha?  But that's what I've been told everytime I'm out!  Weird lol "You know you want me, baby"  LMAO!