words of encouragment

Today is my 5 month surgiversary and I'm down 92 lbs. I should be really excited but I can't be. I just feel so disgusting. .the way my skin is and how my clothes hang off of me. .before I would have been thrilled that my clothes were too big and now i just wish they would fit. .I can never find and pants to fit me they all look terrible. .my legs have shrunk way more than my stomach has. .I started ab workouts but it will take time to see a difference. .I also just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years. .pretty much just because his school is about 5 hours away from me and we never get to see eachother except when were both home. .so i guess I'm just looking for some words of encouragment to get me through this. .thanks for listening

Hey Anna, 92 pounds in 5 months is AMAZING!  Honesly, thats like losing a 5th grader or something.  Unfrtunately I don't have to much advice to offer because i'm just a week post-op but have you tried wearing skirts or maybe taking a pair of jeans to the tailor and seeing what they can do?  I HATE wearing clothes that are to big for me too, so uncomfortable and frumpy feeling!  I'm sorry to hear about you and your boyfriend, kudos to you though for realizing that the relationship isn't working for YOU and doing somthing about it and not giving in to the fear that someone is better the the right one.  Hang in there girl and trust me, I know how cliche it sounds but this too shall pass.

 You just did a very hard thing by breaking up with your bf and I think that has more to do with how you are seeing yourself than with how you really look.  It takes time for your mind to catch up to what your body looks like and that also is probably playing a role in your messed up view of your body.  You have lost 92 pounds in 5 months!  That is A LOT of change in a short time span - give your mind time to realize it and your skin time to catch up.  Even us younglings are probably going to end up with extra skin - but darlin' in the long run it is much easier to dress to accomodate/hide excess skin than it was to dress to accomodate all those extra pounds.  Try, even though it is hard, to look at the big picture. That is so weird that you are losing on your legs first - I am having the complete opposite phenomena.  I carry so much of my weight on my lower half.  Something I have noticed is the more time goes on the more proportional I get - weight shifts around to where it belongs.  Give your body time and eventually it'll come off. You have done fantastically with your weight loss!  You should be SO proud of yourself.  Take some pictures of yourself now and compare them to pictures of yourself a year ago - you'll see the change.   Here is to a new beginning and many wow moments to come!

I know what you're going through. The truth is-- most of us know what you're going through. My 6 month out was just a couple days ago. My arm skin hangs in such a way that I have to wear shirts that don't allow the skin to droop down.  I know I started out with a lot of extra baggage to begin with so.. losing the weight only makes it worse. (The skin, I mean.)   I look at my DL picture though and it's an entirely different person. It's me in there somewhere.. but she was battling the fat person to make her true self come out. I commend you on trying to take a new path in your love life. Things always work out for the best..  But as far as your extra skin goes, just keep your chin up and things will get better!  <3 Zandra <3

I'm also losing weight in my legs faster than my waist so my pants are always baggy in my legs. One part of my hates it and the other part is like whatever I wont be in these pants for long anyway. My issue is my arms, lots of extra skin. I am getting married in June and dress shopping is my biggest fear. I was glad I was having this surgery before my wedding so I wouldn't be so big at the the time but now I am going to have all this skin on my arms and I feel like that's almost as bad. 92 lbs. is fabulous! I am jealous, I am 4 months and only at 75 lbs. Keep up the good work and try to look on the bright side, like I said you wont be in them for long!