how to?

I'm hoping I can find some help here... Okay, so with my friends, even my closest friends, we never talk about weight because, well, I am the only one who is overweight.  So I am wondering if anyone has been in this situation and if someone could give me advice on how to bring up a conversation about how I am so obese that I am going to have surgery?? Even though my size has always embarrassed me, I'm not worried about what they think, I just need some help on how to approach it... Anything will help.

Hi!
I am in a similiar situation. Fortunately, my friends have seen me struggle with weight for years and have been supportive.However , I am still uncomfortable telling them because no one understands unless they have been overweight.  I have only told my friends that I feel completely safe(knowing they wont judge the surgery option) with. I am waiting until after my surgery when i am more confident to tell them and not be persuaded by their judgments or saying "you can do it by eating healthy and exercising".  If you are going to tell them i would advise you to let them know how bad it has made you feel emotionally and physically and that you need their support. I have found that the more education I give people around me about the surgery the more open they are to it! I have found these message boards to be a good outlet and my family.
Good luck~Kristen

I know your situations, I was always the overweight friend that was fun to eat with.  The way i went about it was that i told my closest friends first, and i was just honest with them, they all know that i would do diets and i was just like listen this is what i am doing, these are the facts, and i've researched it all and in the end it will benefit me.  All of my friends were supportive, they knew the struggles i went through.  I didn't tell people who I was not 100% close with and who I didn't see constantly.  I think the first people i told were my sister and our friend and i was sitting at the computer and was like ok so i am going to have this surgery and i went to the website and showed them what it was, then i just fanned out and told the rest.  i didn't tell alot of people untill a few months into all the doctors appointments, bc i wanted to have all the facts and know the answers to the questions that they were probably were gonna ask.  Hope this helps.

I know exactly what your going through. None of my friends know what it's like to be obese. They can eat and eat and never gain any weight. So we never talk about it either. But only a few days ago I told them about my surgery, If they truly care about you they will support you! I don't know what your exact situation is, but if I were you I'd tell them how you're feeling and what you're going through. Most negative responses I got were because they didn't undertsand the surgery and bc they were worried about me. So explain the surgery to them. Once they see that it's the best thing for you and your health, they'll support ya! Hope this helps.  *Remember people always come around. So, dont be discouraged if you get some negative feedback. Goodluck. =]]

Thanks all - that really helps me out!