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 ounds to me like you still have the fat mentality that if you aren't with him..who is going to want to be with you because of your weight. (this is just my opinion and totally not ment to offend)  But guess what?! You are better then that and not the fat girl any more!! I say kick him to the curbs...seems like he has already started to let go! Good luck!
*HUGS*

think of it this way...with you new body, you can start a new life!!  without him...and possibly find someone that appreciates the new you and loves you...you should never be with someone that doesn't make you feel like the best version of yourself...life is too short to have someone dragging you down!!!  Cut him loose girl!  I'm sure that after the deed is done, you'll feel free and wonder why you hadn't done it sooner!  It's called "TOXIC" and it's not healthy!!  You're saying how you're trying to make your body healthy etc...what about your mind?!  Having a toxic person in your life is just as unhealthy as eating a large bag of Doritos in my opinion!!  You're a beautiful person and deserve someone that will make you feel that way inside and out.  MUCH LOVE!!

Wow...I can relate to your struggle so much. I'm not on your side just yet of the WLS world but I will be soon. I was hoping that the closer I got the stronger I would be in handling my relationship issues. It's something that just has to be done within but don't look on the outside for suggestions or advice. I tried that...I tried googling,posting,and even asking my friends and family for their suggestions and everyone had an opinion. But because none of them knew the entire situation (as much as I tried to talk their ears off telling them...lol). It's hard, it's like trying to have people tell you what to do to lose weight. It comes from within...you have to stop and just listen to yourself and ask yourself...am I okay? Is this the happiest I can be?

Youre a lot stronger than you think...I'm finding that out every day.

"I've lived my life trying to please others, making sure everyone around me is satisfied, but what happened to my satisfaction?"

I pulled that quote from your profile. Think about that. This is one situation where you shouldn't follow your heart. Love/ strong like will make you do some crazy things. I think you actually know exactly what you want/ need to do but it's scaring you- don't be scared! Read your quote.

Oh girly! I've so felt your pain and probably every woman on here has....Just a couple words of advice...remember, I'm a woman too and we all have to stick together and although some things I say and things other say may hurt, the truth hurts and everyone on here just wants the best for you..

If you've been with him for 2 years and he ignores your calls and  doesn't call for days...its not a real relationship.

ANY person that truly loves you would support you a 100%. Nothing about WLS is easy, the body goes through a huge change but so does your mind. Sounds like he wasn't that good of guy to begin and sounds like he's just gotten worse.

I will tell you something...You're anxiety is probably caused partly caused by him. I was with a guy and I had 6 panic attacks within 5 months and since leaving him....nothing!

I'm alone now and although I'm lonely sometimes, I'm not crying anymore. There were so many times I'd lay in bed while with him and tell myself that I was miserable and that I'd rather be single and be miserable in be in a relationship and be miserable. And honestly....I'm not miserable now.

There's nothing any of us can tell you to end this....You have to be done, without being throughly done, you will go back.

I'm sending a huge hug your direction because I know you need it, I needed it.

One last thing....put yourself first....I know if you're anything like me, its hard to put yourself first, its easier to take care of everyone else. But.....you have to be number 1, before anyone else can be number 2.

hey kara. is normal that you have some anxiety. `cuz you know he is like a drug to you. `cuz he makes you ill. so right now, like a drug, you are having the " abstinence" period. is not that you stil in love with him, `cuz you can love what hurts you". so be brave and forget. just time can heal this kindda wounds.
you must be veryproud of your self for dumping him and to acomplish all that you have.
so congrats!! and hang in ther girl. there you are beautiful and ther is a lot of better men that are waitig to have a great girl.

hugs.
mariana.