Hi, Just a note to let you know that I am also pre-op and stressing a bit. I saw your name on the group site......Boliver...just want you to know that I no longer post on that site....however I do read the posts that interest me....I have been interested in a young lady and a young man who post there. If it were not for those two I would not even go there. I too was ignored and somehow or other just didn't fit in. I joined to learn about weight loss surgery, not all the personal stuff that these ladies dwell on. Hang in there and look for another place to post. Bonnie