akindofmagick
Them's the breaks...
Dec 27, 2009
So, today is the day I had planned to go to Dr. Aceves in Mexicali... I decided to have the procedure back in August... I had booked the first slot on the surgery schedule for tomorrow morning, and was sooo excited. My brother in Nevada agreed to watch my girls whilst I was away. Then in October my sister let the cat out of the bag to my parents, who are in very poor health, and all &^%$ broke loose. Turned out my brother was also very anti-procedure and hadn't told me. It was ugly, to say the least. Sis and I are still not on good terms...In my head, I was already a sleeved person, minus the tool. My mother is in such bad shape, health-wise, and only 20 years older than I am. Dad is not a whole lot better. I DON'T WANT TO GROW OLD AND BE LIKE THEM!!!
I floundered for a month, then regrouped, and decided to move forward with my desire to ensure my long-term physical health is maximized.
I can't go to Mexico - can't take the 4-5 days away from my girls. Nina and the other people on Dr. Aceves' staff were sooo supportive; they tried to come up with alternatives and a way I could bring my girls with me, but I can't do that to them - can't have them see me immediately post-op, even with a nanny.... they're only 5 and 7 years old.
So, I'm going to pay more than twice as much $$ for a procedure in the USA, at Johns Hopkins.
I meet the surgeon on 11 January, and plan to have the procedure on Good Friday, if he's operating that day. The girls have the whole next week off, so I won't have to worry about getting them to/from school, etc. My BFF will stay with the girls in our home that weekend.
And as it turns out, my brother in Nevada was just diagnosed with a large skin cancer on his chest (basal carcinoma) which he's having removed on Tuesday - they're putting him under and anticipate he'll be 2-4 hours in surgery.
So - it's just as well he's not got my two to look after this week on top of his own three.
Funny how things work out!!
One thing I've realized, during our Christmas visit to Nevada, is that I don't need to worry about my family finding me here on OH. So - I'm coming back out of the closet, as it were. Not sure how long it'll take my avatar to change back, tho - several days, from previous experience.
Sorry this got so long - but just wanted to say: I am sooo glad I found this oh-so-supportive group!! And, I'm looking forward to joining y'all on the loser's bench in early April.
In the meantime, I'm going to enjoy the occasional glass of chardonnay and diet coke... and try hard to wean myself off the latter!!
:)
