arad
Less than a month away
Jun 22, 2009
I went to my appointment with the cardiologist this morning. He asked me a ton of questions and did an EKG. Everything came out fine and he said he would grant me clearance for surgery. The whole appointment lasted less than 30 minutes. I still have to have the pre-op testing done and I still need to see a pulmonolgist. Those appointments will take place within the next two weeks.Someone asked me this morning how many people I have told about my RNY surgery. Well, aside from those who are on this website - the answer is nine. My parents, my cousin Michelle, and my best friends Denielle, Amanda and Jenny (in Wisconsin) and Tiffany (in Mississippi). I have also told my friends Christine and Melissa, both of whom have had RNY surgery. Christine and Melissa have been especially wonderful to talk to, since they have already been through this.
I was trying to get my cousin to come down here and help me for a week or so after the surgery (since she is unemployed and all) and she first told me yes. Then she said she couldn't because she couldn't give up her $10/day dog walking gig. No, I'm not kidding. That's family for you. My parents are going to have my son for the whole month of July, so they are helping out on that front. If my mom wasn't working, I know she could come down (but part of the reason she is working summer school is to help me out financially).
Out of all my friends (who have not had RNY), Amanda has been the best. I cannot say enough about her. She has stayed with me on the phone for hours while I talk about my fears and she asks questions about the surgery -- she's been the only one so far that has really taken the time to talk to me about it. She has even volunteered to come down for a few days to help me, which is so wonderful. Even if it's just for a few days, it would be great. Because as of right now, I don't have anyone to wait with me during the surgery, to visit me in the hospital or to help me out at home afterwards. I know it would be a lot different if I were having the surgery done in WI, but I live here.
I don't know, it just seems like it's been a mixed bag of reactions and I have enough worry and nervousness already, I don't need any more. And part of me is so ashamed to tell people that I need this surgery in order to get a handle on my weight. I did tell my boss I was having surgery (but did not tell him what kind) and I started a claim for short term disability on Friday. I think I will take off about 4 weeks from work, as long as I can get the short term disability, which I should be able to get.
I definitely don't want my ex (my son's father) or my coworkers to know. You would understand if you knew where I worked. I am sure there will be a lot of speculation and that's fine.
I guess I am just at the point where I don't want anyone else to know. Maybe that will change as the time draws closer, but I don't think it will. I do realize that if I tell more people, then perhaps I could build my support system, but I also could do the opposite and I don't need people to judge me.
I am really thankful for this blog and for OH. I am really addicted to this website, as it has essentially become a lifeline for me. So thank you to all of the friends I have already "met" through OH.
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About Me
Louisville, KY
Location
44.9
BMI
Surgery
07/20/2009
Surgery Date
May 25, 2009
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