gingerkay83
Hi, my name is Ginger Hatcher and I am 26 years old. I have a wonderful 4 year old son Jacob who is the light of my life. My son is a very energetic little boy and is always ready for another thing to do. I am not able to do a lot of the things that he wants me to do with him because of my weight. No matter how I look I know he loves his mommy but I also know that he would be a happier child if mommy could do more things with him.
I have a wonderful boyfriend Chris who is there for me and my son in the bad and good of life. I am obese and my weight has not been under 290 lbs since I was 21 years old. I have struggled with weight loss my entire life and continue to struggle. I have tried every diet plan out there and still no answer to why I am unable to achieve success. I struggle with depression in part related to my weight. I want to be able to do so many more things. It hurts me to know that I am unable to go out and play with my son the way I want to without getting out of breath and having to sit down. The way he looks at me when I am unable to play anymore hurts because other mom's my age are able to do things with their children that I can't. My boyfriend loves me for who I am and not what I look like which is a blessing. Though he doesn't care if I am 120 lbs or 500 lbs I do. I sometimes feel like he could do so much better looks wise but he will tell me I am being crazy if I say that to him. I couldn't have asked for a better person to enter mine and my son's life than this man. He is supportive of my choice to undergo gastric bypass surgery! He said that if I had the surgery maybe I would open up a little more to him and go out some. He asks all the time to go out to eat or go to the movies but I am so ashamed of myself that I choose not to do this most of the time. He wants me to have more confidence in myself and be happy with my body. I don't think that the doctors I go to could have convinced me that gastric bypass could benefit me without his help. He would take time out and sit with me just to talk about how I feel about my body and what I believe could help me out. He has seen me fail at many diets and wants me to be successful in my goals. He is he reason I came to the conclusion that this is right for me. He wants to see me happy and be able to do things with my son and not be ashamed of the way I look.
My sister has had gastric bypass surgery and also has been someone I could talk to about this more. She knows the feelings that I have about myself all too well. I have learned so much from her before and after her surgery. She is able to do so much more than she could before and is much happier. I have so much support to have the surgery and she is my number one supporter. She wants to see me be a healthier person and be able to do all the things that I am missing out on now. She has given me so much confidence in myself for the way I am right now and I know that she will continue to support me throughout my journey into bariatric surgery. My family is a great support system and for them I want to be healthy.
More than for my family I want to be healthy. I never really had a problem with sleeping but now I have sleep apnea. I am an unhappy person and I get to see that more than the others in my life each day. I want to be able to go out and take a walk in the woods and not have to stop every five minutes. I want to be able to go to the store and be able to find clothing to fit me without feeling out of place when I try on the biggest size and am unable to fit into it. There are lots of clothing options for overweight women now versus five years ago but there is still so many things that I wish I could wear. I want to be comfortable with intimate relations also. There are times when I am so ashamed to be naked in front of my boyfriend and I don't know if I am alone but I would like to have a light on for once. I want to love life and be able to be here for a lot longer, there is so much that I know I can do if I have the confidence to do them. Weight loss surgery seems like the way that I can gain that confidence. I know right now I am a beautiful person, but I want to be able to look in the mirror and say I am beautiful.
