Obie
Stress, stress, stress...
May 23, 2009
My 17yo son took off for about half a day, that night, and the entire next day. Just as night was coming we did a missing person's report on him which meant here if the cops had gotten him he would have been in juvenile jail til he turns 18 in August. He has bipolar disorder and is off meds and just being a real butt just because he thinks he can. They say your kids pay you back ten fold for what you did to your parents, but I never did any of the things he's putting me through. Eventually my brother got him to come home taking the cops out of the equation. Bro thought he was helping but all he did was prove to my son he'll save him whenever he needs him. And still my son respects no one.
The good thing, I couldn't eat during the whole thing. I was shaking like a leaf and had such a headache there was no way anything would have stayed down. This morning was the first time I ate a bite. So maybe I'll lose a pound or two from worrying about my son. But boy I hope he doesn't do it again anytime soon.
One good thing to happen yesterday...I got the call from my family doc's office with an appointment at UAB Hospital in Birmingham, AL to see Dr. De la Torre about the hydrendenitis supperativa under my arms that will have to be taken care of before I can even start my WLS path in earnest so hopefully we can get this done. While I'm dealing with the HS I'm going to keep researching the different kinds of WLS and what all I would be expected to do before and after, basically learn just as much as I can about WLS. So maybe I will get there but just by the long scenic route instead of the expressway.
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The good thing, I couldn't eat during the whole thing. I was shaking like a leaf and had such a headache there was no way anything would have stayed down. This morning was the first time I ate a bite. So maybe I'll lose a pound or two from worrying about my son. But boy I hope he doesn't do it again anytime soon.
One good thing to happen yesterday...I got the call from my family doc's office with an appointment at UAB Hospital in Birmingham, AL to see Dr. De la Torre about the hydrendenitis supperativa under my arms that will have to be taken care of before I can even start my WLS path in earnest so hopefully we can get this done. While I'm dealing with the HS I'm going to keep researching the different kinds of WLS and what all I would be expected to do before and after, basically learn just as much as I can about WLS. So maybe I will get there but just by the long scenic route instead of the expressway.
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May 20, 2009
I'm new here and new to the idea of WLS. My family doctor kind of dropped the bomb on me last week at a check-up for my blood pressure. I was already on blood pressure meds and we had to double them because it was going up again. I've been following a modified low cholesterol diet for over a month now because my hubby just had a stint put in one of the main arteries very close to his heart and rather than have to cook separately for him I just changed the whole family's diet. We also have to follow an acid reflux diet and my youngest son's avoidance diet because of his food allergies but we've been doing that for over 12 years now. I just find it easier to work everyone's special food needs into our main diets than to have to cook for this one and that one and the other one. Sometimes it's hard, I won't lie. But it is still easier over all to me at least.
To be honest, I know I'm at least 600lbs. and probably more but there are no scales around here that can weight me so we just have to guess at this point. And I know it has taken me years to get this way. I didn't just wake up today like this. And I've known all along I'm a fat chick. I used to joke I was the original fat chick as a matter of fact. I wasn't this big a couple of years ago. I broke my left foot and ankle and had to sit down and stay off it to let it heal. And my body being what it is it took longer than it does for most people for the bones to heal. And I kept hurting. Eventually my orthopedist figured out I had loose cartiledge floating around in my ankle wreaking all kinds of havoc and finally decided to get it out of there. So I had the ankle surgery and had to sit some more. And of course the ankle didn't heal correctly and gives me pain and fits all the time. I also have lympedic swelling below both knees to my toes and that too makes it hard to get around. I have a walker and a wheelchair and I guess I've become more dependent than I'd like on both.
I'm not trying to make excuses for myself, I'm just explaining part of why my family doctor sees WLS as pretty much the only thing that is going to help me at this point. I have a really hard time getting around so going to a gym would be pretty much out of the question. Walking any serious distance like to work out would be kind of the same thing at this point. And in the past it hasn't mattered how much I've moved or not moved, what I've eaten or not eaten. no matter what I've done I've stayed the same weight or put on more weight. I used to say it didn't bother me as long as it wasn't a health issue, but it has become a health issue and a real one real quick too. See, I try to avoid doctors no matter what if I can at all. But that aside, I just don't see how I can lose much weight not really being able to do the simplest work-out. And I know this is part of the process for WLS now thanks to some people on one of the message boards. I'm beginning to think I'm just a lost cause and I really don't want to end up being one of those people on tv they have to cut the wall out of their house to get them out.
I've checked with my insurance and they require that I be followed by a doctor or one of those weight loss centers for at least 2 years and show an inability to accomplish significant weight loss on my own. This is what I was told by an insurance rep. My doctor was shocked and said most insurances only require six months of following like that. At any rate I will have been keeping regular apponitments with my family doc two years later this year so either way that much will be covered. Then I guess it would just be a case of getting my hydrendenitis supperativa in my under arms cut out to make certain there would be as little chance of infection as possible and I may have finally found at least one surgeon who still does the procedure around me after a year of looking. My family doctor's plan is to have the HS cut out, recover from that surgery and then go for the WLS. But he isn't the actual doctor handling either of the surgeries so there is no telling how it will really happen.
I just don't know anything. Besides here I don't know where to look for information. And I hope I don't come off as one of those people who isn't willing to work for this because I am, I just need someone to tell me what I need to be doing. This is so not me. I'm usually on top of everything medical that has to do with my family. But I don't want to end up getting all the wrong information about this. It is just too important. I feel like I'm drowning and I just need someone to throw me a float to keep my head above water.
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To be honest, I know I'm at least 600lbs. and probably more but there are no scales around here that can weight me so we just have to guess at this point. And I know it has taken me years to get this way. I didn't just wake up today like this. And I've known all along I'm a fat chick. I used to joke I was the original fat chick as a matter of fact. I wasn't this big a couple of years ago. I broke my left foot and ankle and had to sit down and stay off it to let it heal. And my body being what it is it took longer than it does for most people for the bones to heal. And I kept hurting. Eventually my orthopedist figured out I had loose cartiledge floating around in my ankle wreaking all kinds of havoc and finally decided to get it out of there. So I had the ankle surgery and had to sit some more. And of course the ankle didn't heal correctly and gives me pain and fits all the time. I also have lympedic swelling below both knees to my toes and that too makes it hard to get around. I have a walker and a wheelchair and I guess I've become more dependent than I'd like on both.
I'm not trying to make excuses for myself, I'm just explaining part of why my family doctor sees WLS as pretty much the only thing that is going to help me at this point. I have a really hard time getting around so going to a gym would be pretty much out of the question. Walking any serious distance like to work out would be kind of the same thing at this point. And in the past it hasn't mattered how much I've moved or not moved, what I've eaten or not eaten. no matter what I've done I've stayed the same weight or put on more weight. I used to say it didn't bother me as long as it wasn't a health issue, but it has become a health issue and a real one real quick too. See, I try to avoid doctors no matter what if I can at all. But that aside, I just don't see how I can lose much weight not really being able to do the simplest work-out. And I know this is part of the process for WLS now thanks to some people on one of the message boards. I'm beginning to think I'm just a lost cause and I really don't want to end up being one of those people on tv they have to cut the wall out of their house to get them out.
I've checked with my insurance and they require that I be followed by a doctor or one of those weight loss centers for at least 2 years and show an inability to accomplish significant weight loss on my own. This is what I was told by an insurance rep. My doctor was shocked and said most insurances only require six months of following like that. At any rate I will have been keeping regular apponitments with my family doc two years later this year so either way that much will be covered. Then I guess it would just be a case of getting my hydrendenitis supperativa in my under arms cut out to make certain there would be as little chance of infection as possible and I may have finally found at least one surgeon who still does the procedure around me after a year of looking. My family doctor's plan is to have the HS cut out, recover from that surgery and then go for the WLS. But he isn't the actual doctor handling either of the surgeries so there is no telling how it will really happen.
I just don't know anything. Besides here I don't know where to look for information. And I hope I don't come off as one of those people who isn't willing to work for this because I am, I just need someone to tell me what I need to be doing. This is so not me. I'm usually on top of everything medical that has to do with my family. But I don't want to end up getting all the wrong information about this. It is just too important. I feel like I'm drowning and I just need someone to throw me a float to keep my head above water.
