Trin2rilax Cheryl McCoy

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Not far from my house is a junkyard. Well, they don't call them "junkyards" anymore. It's an "Automotive Salvage Yard" or some such nonsense that enables them to justify paying 40 dollars for a tail light assembly. You can see through the broken down old fence which I am not sure is suppose to provide much needed security?  But the idea still fascinates me. All those cars, all those stories. As most of them are there as a result of an insurance company totaling them out after a collision, I wonder what the story is. Was anyone hurt? Killed ? Was it a result of a drunk driver? Was a child on board? But there they are...most with hoods open, windows and doors open or missing. All are in some stage of being parted out and when most all of the usable parts are taken, they will ride a flatbed to some reheat furnace, and become something new.

This website, reminds me a bit of this yard. Everyone on here has a story. Most of us older folks have had our collision or two. We have some of us missing in some way. Sure, we may have a shattered ego instead of a windshield, a crumpled heart, not a crumpled hood. But for whatever reason put us here, We are not without value. My sense of humor is intact...or at least no more warped than the day I left the showroom (Some would argue that should have been recalled years ago, but I digress.) My parts are worth more than the sum of the total. And I surmise that many of you are also nowhere near ready to ride that flatbed. Remember your worth.

Maybe 40 dollars isn't so bad...it's better than the cracked tail light I have. Wait that's my heart.

Today was a great day, I want to fill my life with more days like this, I am amazed at the difference in my life and the craving I have to fix things.  I mess up but I am fine with that.

Cheryl

Things are really going good lately, life can be weird with all it's twists and turns but lately no matter how it ends up I have not been thrown off.  I am calmer and more accepting to what it brings.  Some things don't make sense, but if you can't change the past you can't worry about it.  I understand who I care about in life and how precious love is and how hard it is to find and I appreciate that and now that I know that I can just relax and have fun.  
It seems that the more happiness I find and the more fun I seek, the weight come off naturally.  I guess because of the lack of stress.  
I LOVE MY LIFE!!!

Tidbit of me…..

 

 

I have to go to the dentist today, which I love.  I am in love with my dentist and the last time I was in I told him just that.  He is the perfect man.  He is 80 some odd years old, he does not retire because I may need him (what man does that?); he speaks about his wife, like she is an angel that just happens to be his best friend.  He tells me stories of walking her to school, and I look at him and I just know when she dies, he will too. 

 

 

Every time I go, he walks into the room and says “You’re stuck with me today”, as if there were anyone else in the office and then he asks me what’s wrong with my teeth and then sits and asks me what is wrong with my life.

 

 

I wonder why I am drawn to his spirit, he is kind, but others can be kind, he is patient but I admire patience in others.  I think it is his graciousness.  He is so thankful for every piece of his life that it exudes an aura of tranquility about him.

 

 

So I measure men against my dentist, it’s even something I taught my oldest daughter. 

 

 

Will this man keep going when you need him?

 

Will he say nice things about you to strangers when he does not have to, but can’t help himself?

 

Will he listen?

 

Will you never have to question his fidelity, because he is so thankful to have you?

 

Will he work hard because he enjoys what he does?

 

Will he help fix your mind and soul when it needs it?

 

Will he be happy and content with your lives together and allow you to be enough?

 

 

For now, my dentist has been the only one to fit the bill.  I am beginning to wonder if there are others?

 

WHY PAIN IS NOT IN VAIN

 

 

 Found this in a magazine and had to share!

Surviving setbacks and heartbreaks allows us to mature, grow and feel grateful-if we know how to embrace them.

 

 

 

When you have troubles to deal with-whether it’s your family, your job or your health – your perspective will determine how well you cope.  And your basic perspective should be this:  My troubles have a purpose; this pain is not in vain.

 

 

 

Each time my wife, Kay gave birth, I saw the glow on her face when a newborn was placed in her arms – her effort and pain were worth it all.   You could say that within Kay’s life there was new life.  And the troubles you face can produce a sense of new life in you.

 

 

 

“God whipers to us in our pleasures….but shouts in our pains,”  C.S. Lewis once wrote.  Our troubles carry potential benefits:  They grab our attention when we’re ignoring something important and help us develop greater character and maturity.  It’s only when we feel the heat that we begin to change, grow and mature.  Troubles produce perserverance, and the more you persevere, the better you’ll get at handling pressure.  You’ll know to never give up but keep on keeping on .  This gives you confidence in the reliability of your own character and in the power of God to guide you through hard times.

 

 

 

Now I’m sure you have noticed that the potential benefits that trouble carries are not guaranteed.  Your troubles won’t automatically help you to mature.  Many people become bitter rather than better.

 

 

 

The benefits of trouble only emerge when you embrace the perspective that good can come out of heartbreak.  This means I may not be thankful FOR troubles but I can be thankful in spite of them.

 

 

 

How can you be thankful when you have lost your job, your health or your spouse?  For one thing, rather than look at what you’ve lost, look at all you still have.  You’re alive, for one thing.  So a question to ask yourself is, What am I taking for granted?  My children?  My friendships?  My home?

 

 

 

There is an old hymn we used to sing’  “Count your Blessings, Name Them One By One.”  We need to do that, even in the midst of trouble.  When times are tough, that’s when we need to be reminded of everything God have given us.

 

 

 

Becoming a truly thankful person can be the healthiest change you make in your life, better than any diet or exercise plan.  Many people think that love is the healthiest emotion to develop, but I think it is gratitude.

 

 

 

When you are thankful in spite of your circumstances, your’re more resistant to illness and stress.  Your troubles can help you to develop an attitude of gratitude.

 

 

 

There’s no double at all that if you’re not facing trouble now, you will face it sometime soon.  It’s just a natural part of life.

 

 

 

As you consider your troubles, don’t ask, “Why me?”  Instead ask, “What can I learn from this?”  Then, trust God and keep on doing what’s right.  Don’t give up—grow up!

 

 

 

I have been dealt some rough blows lately, and I am trying to cope without reverting to my old eating habits, but it is hard.  I guess when I was super morbidly obese I thought that if I lost weight, I would have everything I could ever want and life would be a breeze.  Boy was I wrong, I am beginning to wonder if I will ever feel beautiful and normal.  Will I ever have all that I dreamed of?

Cheryl

I just survived plastic surgery and just let me tell you, please do not let anyone tell you it does not hurt.  I had an adminoplasty (full upper and lower) and well as hernia repair and it has kicked my butt.  Dr Katzen did my surgery in Beverly Hills and he took the time to listen to what I wanted and really heard me and spent the extra time to give me what I wanted.  I thank God for him and bring him into my life.  Bo took a day off work and then stayed with me through the weekend and babysat me and took care of my every whim and need and above all listened to my contast whinning.  The man truely deserves a metal. 
I need to get off of here now the medicine is making me loopy as I am still in the coolest hopital ever and they have bedside internet, not to mention a butler that delivers WoolfGang Puck when I choose to order.

Cheryl

On Wednesday, I came home from work and I was totally exhausted so I left my work bags and my computer in the car and I told my husband that if he loved me even a little he would carry in my stuff for me because I needed it to work from home on Friday.  It is now Friday morning and I just went and got my stuff out of the car.  I don't want anyone to misunderstand, I am in no way angry or even upset, our house was crazy over the holidays and I know that he forgot.  What worries me is there was a time in our relationship when he would have never forgotten what I needed or asked,  because he was focused on me and making me happy and now I seem to have ruined that.  I have just went through a difficult period, I was very sick while I was pregant and very worried about the baby through the whole thing but what really made me depressed was the fact that I have had to battle my ex in court for my first two girls, I have had to pay high attorney bills and pay lots of his bills that he was not paying and even had to take out a restraining order against him all while being pregnant.  
Now most of that has settled down and the baby is here, beautiful and healthy, but I lost my Bo.  I put him at the bottom of my pile because my attention and strength went to just surviving and now he is so angry with me for doing that, I cant get him to move forward with me again.  I have apologized and told him that I did not realize that I was ignoring him, however he says he wants to move forward but I can see that he has not forgotten or forgiven me yet.  I am starting to really be scared that things will never be back to normal again.
I want him to see how lucky he is, but he is just so angry that he cant see it.

I have rambled enough for today
Cheryl

Ok, so whatever a blog is; this is my first one.