Question:
Does anyone have a lack of interest in sex
My husband and I are both post-op. We are losing weight, but are still tired (I am 6wks and he is out 5). We just don't seem to have any sex drive yet at all. Is this normal? Vicki R — vicki R. (posted on April 10, 2003)
April 10, 2003
VICKI, WE MUST HAVE HAD SURGERY AROUND THE SAME TIME MINE WAS 03/03/03 AND
THIS IS VERY NORMAL IF YOU ASK ME. I DON'T HAVE MUCH SEX DRIVE EITHER BUT I
CAN TELL AS EVERY PUND COMES OFF IT IS INTERESTING ME A LITTLE MORE ALL THE
RESEARCH I'VE DONE ON THIS AND BELIEVE ME ALOT THIS IS VERY NORMAL. GOOD
LUCK IN YOUR JOURNEY. I'M SO EXCITED I WALKED FOR AN HR AND A HALF
YESTERDAY AND AS I GET MORE EXERCISE I FEEL SO GOOD. IF YOU WANT TO EMAIL
ME CHECK MY PROFILE EMAIL ADDRESS IN IT
— PAULA C.
April 10, 2003
It's very normal. It can be that way for 18-24 mo is what my Dr told me. It
has to do with hormones and how we feel about ourselves. As heavy people we
tend to want to please people. Not only are our bodies going through
radical changes, not knowing what's happening, but we are also getting lots
of kudos and mor acceptance from other people. My Dr told me there is some
gland(can't remember exactly) that controls our sex drive that really goes
through changes when we loose weight and it takes a while to get back to
normal. Personally, I'm 2 yrs out and am still struggling with the issue. I
used to have a very strong drive, now almost nothing. I'm working on it
though. Take care and just try cuddling, it seems to fill the void for
awile. You are both very early in your post op journey, be patient the
changes will come.
— Janice B.
April 10, 2003
I am 10 months out and am still having that problem. My poor boyfriend
thinks I am not interested in him anymore. Someone please tell me my sex
drive will come back. I had a very high sex drive before surgery, and now
it's like I have none at all. I just don't understand. I'm not on any
medications either.
— Jennifer Y.
April 10, 2003
Hiya :). I'm glad you posted this because my poor husband and I are going
through the same thing. I'm a little over 3 months out, and while the
thought of sex isn't anything bad to me, I'm just not interested! That's
funny too, because I've always had a really high sex drive, and now it's
like blahhhh LOL. The few times we've had sex since my surgery have been
great, but these days I just really couldn't care less about it. I'm
hoping that it gets better, and my poor husband, who has gone from being
chased all over the house to being the one doing the chasing, understands
it's not him, but he's hoping it gets better too LOL. I wish you luck and
hope this gets better for all of us :).
— SuzAnne S.
April 10, 2003
I experienced this also. It really hit me about three months post-op that I
REALLY wasn't interested. It was a strain on my relationship with my
husband. He was totally understanding, but I know that after a while he
wondered if I just wasn't interested in him. In the last month or two (I'm
nine months out)I have noticed that I am becoming interested again and my
husband is very happy about that. I was worried too, but I went to the
library on this site and after looking for a while I found three or four
questions on this topic. I actually printed them out and had my husband
read them. It helped both of us to realize that it was normal for me to
feel this way and it wouldn't last forever.
— Jenny S.
April 10, 2003
Yes, I believe it is normal. I didn't get my energy level back to normal
(actually much better than my old normal) until almost 4 months. You'll
start seeing a difference in a few weeks and your energy level will keep
increasing! Pretty soon you'll be posting saying you can't get enough!
lol
— Tracy A.
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