OK, I know I look Thinner...

I know I look thinner (I posted 2 month pics a week or so ago).  I see it in my face, and in my pics I can also see it in my profile.  I started at a size 30 and as of today I am comfortably in a 20.  Yet no one who knows about my surgery has said anything to me.  I've received compliments and comments from people who didn't know I had surgery... but no one that knows has said a single word.  It doesn't ruin my day, but it sure would be nice to be recognized every now and then.

first, congrats on your loss!  You're doing great!  I have to say, that is weird....the people who know, are they your friends??  LOL  actually, I sort of am serious....could they be jealous??   what about your family?  No one is happy for you??? 

well, you do have us, to tell you you look great!  sorry I can't help you....

Sophie

My Mom was absolutely against me getting the surgery.  She had herself convinced that every bad side effect or outcome that could happen, would happen... she's been supportive since I told her to shut her trap and deal with it.  She's not the type to keep a grudge or punish me for going against her wishes.  My husband hasn't said one word.  He was fully supportive of the surgery... but he has told me a zillion times, he doesn't care how much I weigh.

As for everyone else... it's a mix of friends and family.  I don't think anyone's jealous.  In fact, I am by far the heaviest in my circle of friends/family.  I still am, at my current weight.  I know they are looking for change... I catch just about everyone who knows giving me the visual once over when they see me... but no comment.

The only thing I get is people asking me how I feel... with the exception of those who I haven't seen since surgery.  They will flat out ask how much I've lost.

Oh well...people are strange... and apparently the people I associate with are quite strange.

oh isn't that a pain, when asked, before even hello sometimes, how much have you lost.....of course I love when they say 'you look great (and then how much lost)....but 'how much' first is like it's only about the numbers, and not the person.

you do what you're doing...you know how great you look and feel {{{hugs}}}

Sophie

I have seen this same post many times. I'm not sure why it happens?  You would think they would be the first to comment and support you.  It isn't like no big change between 30 and 20.  Awesome by the way!  (I know from size 26/28 to 20 was a very big change)

Oops.. Just realized, I haven't updated my stats this week either.

It happens. One woman I work with on and off has never said a thing to me - EVER. And this is a woman who claims to be a friend. I'd recommend just letting it go. It'll be easier in the long run.

I get where you're coming from. I do. It sucks. But you know what you've accomplished and that's what really matters.

I think people who see us regularly don't notice the change because it is so gradual.  If its been a while since someone sees you, they are more likely to notice.  I wonder if the people who know are the ones who see you often.

Carol

It's a little of both.  I get that my husband sees me everyday (but he's also not a real verbal kind of guy... doesn't bother me).  My Mom and sisters hadn't seen me in a month.  As for my friends, it's everything in between.

I'm going to So. Cal. next month.. I'll be curious to see what they say.  My family down there have always been the most vocal about my weight issues...of course, it was always in a negative way... again, oh well.

I get just the opposite. People talking about oh you're losing weight. I just had surgery on the 15th. I haven't lost THAT much weight to notice.