Post-op Blues

I understand that and I am sorry if you took that comment as being specifically directed at you.  It was not. 

I hope that you read the rest of Tracy's comment and saw all the great advice as well as the comment about eating the sub.  

There's another poster here who just made a post about his surgeon making him cry at his followup due to insufficient loss - he ate a taco shortly after his operation.  Sometimes support comes with a side salad of reality.  It's too easy to justify cheats to ourselves.  :/

Love this!  

Thank you  babe,,. I am taking saving that image... Great even for my work... 

This. 

Please don't be offended, and please don't stop coming here for support. This IS a support forum.  Everyone who had surgery a long time ago and still posts does so simoly to help. We do tend to sound a bit harsh sometimes but it truly is because we want newcomers to succeed snd we have seen so very many people self-sabotage. There are certain warning signs we see time and time again. And we warn people when we see them because we ARE trying to support. 

with reference to your question about cheating - I think that the vast majority of successful long-term posters will tell you that they did NOT cheat until several things happened: they were beyond the post-op eating plan, their weight loss was going well and had been for many months, they had really learned how to live with their surgery.

i can honestly say that for the early months, not one single thing passed my lips that was not according to my plan.  Then I felt able to relax. 

And if you think a few weeks without loss counts as an extended stall, you are in for some nasty shocks! 

Tracy had some really good advice. First, don't sweat the exercise. All I did was walk. I walked a lot, but that was it.

Second, 7 weeks out was way too soon to be falling off the wagon. I understand you were frustrated. None of us were happy eating so little. I mean, we were all in the same boat, right? But we ALL want you to be successful. And going to Subway at 7 weeks is a big red flag.

No doubt you will get a bunch of posters saying don't worry about it, no one is perfect. It's not true. Lots of people are exactly on plan until they reach maintenance, and then they formulate a new, long-term plan. I never touched bread, potatoes, sweets, et****il I was over a year out, and at goal weight. I've never had pasta or rice. I had pizza once.

We want what's best for you. We know how you feel. You just need to find a way to stick to your plan and reach the goals you've set for yourself.

Thanks

Fyi: people who took time to tell that this is a huge red flag are those that have been successfully in maintenance for months or years. If you think now is hard, wait until you in year 2,3,....7th.. Then it is really hard.  Most of us been there without WLS...lost bunch of weight - gained it back- lost again -gained again.....etc. 

What is different with some of us now - that we do follow the plan...and we are much harsher on ourselves that anyone here was on you....

How you deal with life and stress now - may determine how well you can deal with life and stress and eating 1-2... 3..... years from now. 

1"sub today, in a few months you could eat 3"... 

My experiance - 6 years maintaining - first year is critical....was i perfect first year - almost - my biggest sin was eating 1cup of blueberries (slowly) over one hour a few (15?) weeks after WLS..i was in pain...the vets let me have it..... And i deserved it. I learned my lesson.  

I hope you recognize that people who told you this is a huge red flag - are all very sucesfull In the weight loss..and maintenance .

And that some that tell you "it's ok, noone is perfect..." either have not lost their weight yet or are not following their plan and are justifying their behaviour. 

Best luck..