Single women help please///Self-conscience as before WLS
IMO - once you find a good guy and stop hating your image - you can be in a very good place. I know i am. Acceptance of who you are and how you look like. It takes time. But it can happen.
BTW: we have a great supportive single forums. Great people.
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/sex_before_and_after_wls/4 401684/saying-hey/#36393365
check it out.
BTW: if you meet a guy that you really like - would it bother you if he has a lot of scars? if not - why do you think it will bother the right -good guy. The rest of them - you do not want to be with a person like that anyway. IMO>
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
Hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Hugs, Y
I have had lots of plastic surgery in the last year, but my friends in support group have not all had it, but they are still beautiful. I would not have gone into debt for the plastics because I don't believe in debt. You are gorgeous in your photo.
Yvonne is so right! If a man doesn't want us because of loose skin, then we don't want him!
Take care of your health! You are beautiful!!
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
I look thin and great in clothes (size 6) and I know guys have this vision of me that isnt me at all. I cant seem to get past a few dates without feeling unworthy and anxious.
It is hard to imagine a man wanting to be with me right now. I am happy for those of you that have found wonderful accepting men but in reality... they are few and far in between. At age 47 i think my best bet is..... just accept ing the fact I might always be alone. Hey atleast I am alive!!!! Strange cir****tances saved my life from an aggressive cancer. Otherwise I wouldnt be whining about this topic... I would be preparing for my funeral. I guess I just need to count my many blessings!
Hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
I eventually met my husband to be during this wild & crazy time, and during the dating process I went on to lose more weight- getting down to 150's with weight lifting & such, which brought even more skin issues along with it- but he has consistently been the person to tell me that loose skin does not concern him in the slightest... it's not the looks that keep a person in the relationship, they do fade, get scarred, get cut-up over the years.. it's the heart. I regained almost all of it- and he's still here to watch round two of the "big loss" happen..
I wish you the best on your recovery and reconstruction!
Starting: 370, Current: 198.5, Goal: 190