changed my mind about gastric bypass

Clever.  A non-sugestion, suggestion.  At least be honest to say, "Here is my stupid suggestion."  There is no freaking way you can anticipate what kind of condition anyone will be post-op.  Hell, they may be on meds to the point they can't realize how bad off they are. 

I can't imagine driving right after surgery. It might be what you would do, but so against medical advice as to be deliberately harmful. Yeesh. Some support.

I drove 4 days post my RNY gastric bypass

You have all the reasons to get this done.  Do you have the will to do it?  I am hearing excuses and a defeated attitude and that doesn't bode well for compliance.  If you can't figure out a way to get enthused and find answers instead of road blocks on simply getting to and from the hospital, how will you do with following a new life style?

I'm sorry because I know I am sounding like a jerk.  Never the less, the question is still whether you have the absolute and total desire to do what is best for you and not let minor problems knock you off the path to success?  If that means asking for help from anyone that can, do it.  

Another idea would be go to forms, state, and then go PA.  Post the same problem there that you posted in this form.  There should be people that live either near your home or where you are having surgery that can help.

Have you tried contacting CareNet?  

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It seems that they may be able to help you locate the resources you need.  

That said - surgery isn't going to change you - you are going to have to change you.

Good luck to you

Ok my dear - one thing I feel I have to say here. You really need support system in your life -I am glad you are here at OH and this may be the only place you can find support being from a small town. You need friends though and I know how easily it is to isolate as an obese person. I was so depressed that I did not socialise. It worries me that you are considering surgery with no one to help you. I developed life threatening complications and I would hate to have you at home with no one to help you. This surgery is a hard recovery both physically and emotionally. You will struggle if you are completely alone ! Walking will be difficult, going to the rest room will be difficult. You will be weak and dizzy.....you may be sad as well.

So use the time between now and your surgery - get involved somehow in your community and meet people - go to a church - or something. Have your surgeon maybe refer you to some post ops in the area that may be willing to come by and visit you. The post op diet is not financially cheap  -protein shakes are expensive, but you will save loads of money not needing groceries.

A cab ride is not what is coming between you and the surgery.... take some time while you wait for your surgery date - and make friends with others, and try to prepare yourself for what life as a post op will look like for the first 6 months. It is not a walk in the park or a easy thing to deal with. If you are still completely alone come your surgery date - I would say you are not ready for surgery. Just my 2 cents.

Best of luck to you and please let us know how you are. This is a great place to make friends.

the focus here is  - what is your life worth to you? and what do you want to change in your life? and then make it happen.... and don't anyone or anything get into your way.

I thought that the last post was very good with suggestions about support groups, churches, community groups, etc.  You NEED  support - get a councilor, etc.  You have to have someone - you can even talk to your surgeons office, nutritionist - just get SOMEONE!  I find it hard to believe that you don't have ONE friend?? Obviously we are going to support you on here, but you need people. Not just for physical changes but for emotional growth.

I am in counseling and I have an amazing husband.  I am having to build a new relationship with food, and I am still not done. This is going to be a lifetime journey.

I will pray for you and I hope that everything works out for you.

does your town offer a public transit ?   you could probably arrange for the free shuttle to take you as far as possible then the transit could take u the rest of way home.    also if your town or a few towns over have a support group then start going and see if anyone would be willing to be your support person and bring you home.  good luck im hoping for the best outcome for you !

go to a church near where you live if you don't have one of your own.  Tell the pastor your situation and if there is someone who can drive you.  The pastor or a retired person from the congregation would probably be happy to do it for you,  no strings attached.